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I should clarify that I support gay marriage random thoughts Send a noteboard - 12/08/2010 05:20:36 PM
You are treating marriage simply as a religious function when it clearly is not. Atheists are married everyday and a lot of people simply get married by the JP. There is no reason to challenge churches on their teachers and a lot of reasons not to, the constitution being the top of the list. The Catholic church would not marry me because I am not a Catholic and have gone through their sacraments. That in no way impedes on my rights since I have a ton of other options that will get me a marriage just as valid in the eyes of society and in the eyes of the law.

You talk about the Catholic church denying to marry you, but it was okay because you went through different channels instead. Please, tell me exactly what other channels I have available to me? A domestic partnership is the only thing I can possibly get here in Ohio, and it doesn't really count for a whole lot. You can get a domestic partnership with basically anyone that you live with...it basically means "house partnership" anyway. Anyone that relies on you and whom you rely on for financial support and symbiosis.


My point was that it is the state of Ohio not the church who is stopping you.

Forgive me for wanting something more...definite.

This is like before Jim Crowe laws were revoked: An African American individual goes into a bank and gets denied service, but it's okay, because he lives in Atlanta where there are plenty of other banks to choose from, so the discrimination doesn't mean as much (well, according to your argument it doesn't).


no it is separation of church and state. Marriage is a state controlled function that the church is allowed to play a ceremonial role if that is the choice of those being married. That really is nothing like Jim Crow laws. I think is a grossly unfair and unjust that we do not allow people to marry anyone they want but I really don’t think it compares to suffering of blacks under Jim Crow.

Well, Random, I am in a fucking one stoplight town, where the only bank is a credit union with exclusive membership, and they don't want me.

The opposition to gay marriage goes much deeper than just religion. It is true that many fundamentalist use that as the basis for their opposition but their numbers are too small to stop gay marriage alone. To repeatedly block ballot initiatives all over the country there has to be staunch opposition that extends well beyond the religious right. <
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Really? Who cock blocked the gay marriage bill in California? It was all of the voters that normally don't turn out to these shindigs. What voters were those? Latinos (a group that is fairly religious and socially conservative), inner city African Americans (a group that is liberal, but fairly socially conservative); and the blue collared groups of individuals that are both socially and fiscally conservative individuals.


Well the majority of the country is Christians so any majority vote will have majority Christians support. The question is if these people tend towards social constructivism but why.


All of the aforementioned groups sound like they are religiously influenced to me, and not influenced by governmental policy.


I never said they were influenced by government policy so I am not sure where that is coming form.

My point was that to get the votes to pass prop 8 required more votes then those who typically vote on religious grounds. You can call the African Americans socially conservative but with 70% of their children being born out of wedlock you really can't call them that socially conservative. The numbers of Latinos are really not that much better.

The high divorce rate, drug usage and children born out of wedlock shows us that societal norms easily trump church teachings. It is society not the church that is the problem.

And why, pray tell, does society have such a problem with the gays? I don't remember any fireside chats with Ike talking about the crimes of gays; rather, I seem to remember a lot of indoctrination by the church as a young kid growing up in an overly-religious western country.


I don't really know. I suspect that it has to do with the emphasis our society put on masculinity and the perception that gays are less then masculine. Being called gay is one of the worst insults on the playground maybe that plays a role. Most heterosexual men find gay sex to be rather gross and that probably plays a role as well.

Whatever the reason I think it is the church reflecting society not the other way around. You can beat that not by making it gays vs the church (a sure loser) but make it a question of basic human rights and by making gay marriage seem less threatening. Attacking church doctrine and the way we do marriage doesn't accomplish that.
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Gay Marriage - 12/08/2010 10:23:19 AM 2043 Views
I disagree on the latter part - 12/08/2010 12:04:15 PM 1371 Views
I follow your point... - 12/08/2010 12:14:17 PM 1358 Views
Suspect you would find plenty of denominations that would argue with you rather strenuously. - 12/08/2010 12:24:55 PM 1398 Views
See, that's what I'm saying... - 12/08/2010 07:37:26 PM 1325 Views
She didn't say that gays ought not be married. - 12/08/2010 07:45:37 PM 1193 Views
You didn't read my post. - 12/08/2010 09:10:21 PM 1252 Views
Actually, you didn't read my post - 12/08/2010 09:23:54 PM 1328 Views
Um, you're wrong. - 12/08/2010 09:37:13 PM 1277 Views
Re: Um, you're wrong. - 12/08/2010 09:44:17 PM 1248 Views
You're still wrong. - 12/08/2010 09:54:55 PM 1382 Views
Re: You're still wrong. - 12/08/2010 09:58:26 PM 1235 Views
Again, you are still wrong. - 12/08/2010 10:04:42 PM 1298 Views
Re: Again, you are still wrong. - 12/08/2010 10:17:13 PM 1126 Views
Wrong definition of "club" - 12/08/2010 10:30:52 PM 1385 Views
My clubs are cooler than yours. *NM* - 12/08/2010 10:35:13 PM 661 Views
I play golf with mine. *NM* - 12/08/2010 10:43:01 PM 683 Views
Re: Wrong definition of "club" - 12/08/2010 10:40:55 PM 1292 Views
Are you a member of one of those churches? - 12/08/2010 10:44:12 PM 1292 Views
Also also: - 12/08/2010 10:46:05 PM 1271 Views
Re: Are you a member of one of those churches? - 12/08/2010 10:49:44 PM 1275 Views
Re: Wrong definition of "club" - 12/08/2010 10:47:20 PM 1312 Views
I don't think he means that kind of club. - 12/08/2010 10:31:41 PM 1199 Views
Also - 12/08/2010 10:02:44 PM 1345 Views
And wrong again. - 12/08/2010 10:08:24 PM 1362 Views
Not so quick! - 12/08/2010 10:21:31 PM 1196 Views
Yes, so quick! - 12/08/2010 10:32:13 PM 1147 Views
Let's be reasonable here - 12/08/2010 10:41:53 PM 1253 Views
Why do you get to judge? - 12/08/2010 10:48:57 PM 1284 Views
I don't - 12/08/2010 10:53:21 PM 1173 Views
OK. - 12/08/2010 10:58:22 PM 1280 Views
Re: OK. - 12/08/2010 11:03:50 PM 1244 Views
Then please stop. - 12/08/2010 11:01:05 PM 1245 Views
What's wrong with discussion? - 12/08/2010 11:05:48 PM 1202 Views
Discussion? Nothing. Your assertions about other people's views, something. - 12/08/2010 11:09:48 PM 1218 Views
Really? - 12/08/2010 11:13:46 PM 1251 Views
Yes. That is incorrect. - 12/08/2010 11:18:05 PM 1217 Views
What, because the expressive message of scouting is anti-gay? - 12/08/2010 10:12:54 PM 1114 Views
Re: What, because the expressive message of scouting is anti-gay? - 12/08/2010 10:23:36 PM 1233 Views
Well then that brings us back to my question, which you have yet to answer. - 12/08/2010 10:36:48 PM 1209 Views
Re: Well then that brings us back to my question, which you have yet to answer. - 12/08/2010 10:46:22 PM 1309 Views
Apparently you do believe that you are more qualified - 12/08/2010 10:57:00 PM 1176 Views
You are wrong - 12/08/2010 11:11:37 PM 1042 Views
Really? - 12/08/2010 11:19:10 PM 1102 Views
Not entirely true either... or, well, true as far as Brown goes. - 12/08/2010 10:08:42 PM 1206 Views
Heh... we discuss restaurants a post or two over there.. ---> - 12/08/2010 10:10:26 PM 1289 Views
Actually, I did. And since everyone else told you you're wrong about that I didn't see any need - 12/08/2010 09:38:33 PM 1292 Views
Re: Actually, I did. And since everyone else told you you're wrong about that I didn't see any need - 12/08/2010 09:55:05 PM 1196 Views
Gah. - 12/08/2010 09:59:45 PM 1155 Views
Yes yes yes. It was ungracious. I got bored. *NM* - 12/08/2010 10:03:17 PM 610 Views
What a mature response. - 12/08/2010 10:11:00 PM 1356 Views
Yes. - 12/08/2010 10:21:38 PM 1284 Views
Re: Yes. - 12/08/2010 10:35:51 PM 1234 Views
I can't speak for Rebekah, but I don't think the issue is that your points are invalid per se. - 12/08/2010 10:22:30 PM 1160 Views
I think my point was unclear in that post - 12/08/2010 10:55:34 PM 1234 Views
It seems that by your (to me nebulous) definition - 12/08/2010 11:05:01 PM 1274 Views
Re: I think my point was unclear in that post - 13/08/2010 10:58:28 AM 1161 Views
+1 - 13/08/2010 09:16:24 AM 1042 Views
Hehe - 13/08/2010 10:46:25 AM 1090 Views
Um - 12/08/2010 09:46:43 PM 1304 Views
That's a very good question. *NM* - 12/08/2010 09:49:05 PM 607 Views
So good it doesn't even need an answer, apparently *NM* - 12/08/2010 10:26:41 PM 664 Views
So good I responded to it someplace else. *NM* - 12/08/2010 10:56:05 PM 543 Views
It makes no sense - 12/08/2010 04:29:24 PM 1152 Views
Re: It makes no sense - 12/08/2010 07:39:25 PM 1224 Views
Re: It makes no sense - 12/08/2010 07:41:02 PM 1315 Views
It's not sanctioning anything - 12/08/2010 09:25:44 PM 1255 Views
Re: It's not sanctioning anything - 12/08/2010 09:28:45 PM 1237 Views
Nonsense - 12/08/2010 09:35:25 PM 1161 Views
Yes, but while marrying two murderers does not ensure that they will continue to murder... - 12/08/2010 09:08:53 PM 1138 Views
Re: Yes, but while marrying two murderers does not ensure that they will continue to murder... - 12/08/2010 09:42:21 PM 1247 Views
Suspect you've not read that either. - 12/08/2010 09:43:32 PM 1172 Views
What other church sanctioned circumstances encourage continued sin? - 12/08/2010 09:45:33 PM 1310 Views
Infant baptism, obviously. - 12/08/2010 09:51:48 PM 1284 Views
*NM* - 12/08/2010 09:53:17 PM 441 Views
*groan* I forgot that one! - 12/08/2010 10:09:07 PM 1268 Views
Re: What other church sanctioned circumstances encourage continued sin? - 13/08/2010 11:04:02 AM 1261 Views
Wow, it's almost like an entire denomination believes that! *NM* - 13/08/2010 03:41:07 PM 610 Views
really? - 13/08/2010 03:42:42 PM 1121 Views
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Yeah, that's the Roman Catholic basis against masturbation and contraception. *NM* - 13/08/2010 04:12:00 PM 575 Views
Yes - 13/08/2010 04:22:58 PM 1094 Views
Which is interesting - 13/08/2010 04:28:09 PM 1076 Views
Yes - 13/08/2010 04:29:25 PM 1055 Views
Original poster. *NM* - 13/08/2010 04:32:18 PM 634 Views
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Dude....please at least have a working knowledge of the Bible before you spout off. - 12/08/2010 10:47:13 PM 1124 Views
I like the part in 1 Corinthians (is it chapter 6?) - 12/08/2010 10:49:55 PM 1024 Views
Ya know?!? - 12/08/2010 10:55:27 PM 1142 Views
I'm not sure you're correct there. - 12/08/2010 04:33:02 PM 1238 Views
Re: I'm not sure you're correct there. - 12/08/2010 07:40:16 PM 1261 Views
There is a difference... - 12/08/2010 09:02:20 PM 1291 Views
No you don't. - 12/08/2010 09:16:52 PM 1267 Views
That's another concern - 12/08/2010 12:39:53 PM 1326 Views
Not quite my point - 12/08/2010 09:19:50 PM 1194 Views
secular marriage is decoupled from religious marriage - 12/08/2010 02:50:43 PM 1333 Views
Simple, require the legal and religious marriage to be performed separately. - 12/08/2010 02:58:43 PM 1155 Views
What in the world would that accomplish? - 12/08/2010 03:44:32 PM 1251 Views
Provide some much-needed clarity, evidently. - 12/08/2010 03:49:33 PM 1084 Views
the problem is it would be changing a centuries old tradition.. - 12/08/2010 04:26:47 PM 1112 Views
heheheheheheheHAHAHAHEHEHehehehehahheeh*cough* - 12/08/2010 04:55:09 PM 1135 Views
thats OK I am sure you will get over it - 12/08/2010 05:22:08 PM 1146 Views
Just guessing, but I think it was the "centuries old tradition" that set off the giggle fit. - 12/08/2010 07:25:38 PM 1258 Views
Really? I was hoping for something better - 12/08/2010 10:06:00 PM 1205 Views
So government recognition makes your religion meaningful? - 12/08/2010 10:11:54 PM 1296 Views
not my religion I'm agnostic - 12/08/2010 10:34:40 PM 1147 Views
OK, but the point remains the same. - 12/08/2010 10:51:59 PM 1258 Views
Of course it would - 12/08/2010 11:10:03 PM 1331 Views
I'm not far left, thank you very much. *NM* - 12/08/2010 10:20:31 PM 672 Views
no but your are European and that slants your views *NM* - 12/08/2010 10:36:01 PM 652 Views
Sure, but in this case it has little to do with left or right. - 12/08/2010 10:40:42 PM 1212 Views
that is what I said when I metioned you were European *NM* - 12/08/2010 11:11:31 PM 648 Views
Simples - 12/08/2010 09:30:31 PM 1227 Views
there are about 140 post ranging from boyscouts to infant babtism - 12/08/2010 10:57:46 PM 1186 Views
So. - 14/08/2010 01:27:59 AM 1075 Views
sorry I responded I forgot what a tool you are. my bad - 14/08/2010 02:48:57 AM 1586 Views
Agreed *NM* - 12/08/2010 03:45:04 PM 529 Views
I love you, Camilla - 12/08/2010 04:02:15 PM 1018 Views
Re: I love you, Camilla - 12/08/2010 04:04:10 PM 1221 Views
Is there an all above option? *NM* - 12/08/2010 04:23:24 PM 677 Views
Naturally. - 12/08/2010 04:25:14 PM 1213 Views
I know I do *NM* - 12/08/2010 05:17:35 PM 619 Views
Another thing - 12/08/2010 07:42:21 PM 1305 Views
A couple of things - 12/08/2010 12:58:09 PM 1200 Views
I disagree - 12/08/2010 07:47:26 PM 1339 Views
Well, you're within your rights to certainly - 12/08/2010 08:24:30 PM 1287 Views
there is major flaw in your argument - 12/08/2010 03:31:45 PM 1333 Views
Re: there is major flaw in your argument - 12/08/2010 04:01:32 PM 1221 Views
I should clarify that I support gay marriage - 12/08/2010 05:20:36 PM 1153 Views
One point about Prop. 8 - 12/08/2010 07:38:55 PM 1188 Views
I know that is the commonl;y held belief but I thinkit is wrong - 12/08/2010 10:32:58 PM 1118 Views
Religious institutions, though, pushed hard to pass it. - 12/08/2010 10:42:33 PM 1204 Views
that doesn’t translate into people voting for religious reasons - 12/08/2010 11:19:48 PM 1021 Views
there are major flaws in your argument - 12/08/2010 07:51:52 PM 1335 Views
Women can't be priests in the Catholic church. - 12/08/2010 08:00:24 PM 977 Views
Hehe. You beat me by 6 seconds. *NM* - 12/08/2010 08:03:28 PM 568 Views
Great minds and all. *NM* - 12/08/2010 08:06:01 PM 571 Views
I was writing a reply to this post... - 12/08/2010 03:51:01 PM 1229 Views
I feel your pain *NM* - 12/08/2010 07:52:28 PM 655 Views
Forcing religious institutions to marry gay couples is hideously unconstitutional. - 12/08/2010 04:18:59 PM 1294 Views
100% agreed. - 12/08/2010 05:05:35 PM 1333 Views
This. *NM* - 12/08/2010 07:36:57 PM 488 Views
You are absolutely wrong - 12/08/2010 07:57:19 PM 1238 Views
By that token - 12/08/2010 08:00:30 PM 1133 Views
My God.... - 12/08/2010 09:49:18 PM 1198 Views
no You are absolutely wrong - 12/08/2010 10:08:57 PM 1131 Views
Well, that was horrifyingly stupid. - 13/08/2010 12:57:46 AM 1239 Views
I am a Christian who wholeheartedly supports Gay Marriage. - 12/08/2010 06:49:28 PM 1336 Views
Fair enough. - 12/08/2010 08:01:37 PM 1261 Views
Why do people equate.... - 12/08/2010 07:11:15 PM 1186 Views
Because "homophobic", like "xenophobic", has shifted a bit in meaning... - 12/08/2010 07:33:56 PM 1230 Views
So then.... - 12/08/2010 07:39:24 PM 1177 Views
Well, strongly anti-gay, yes. - 12/08/2010 07:43:40 PM 1019 Views
Homophobic is generally "anti-gay" or "anti-queer"... - 12/08/2010 07:46:22 PM 1322 Views
Re: Why do people equate.... - 12/08/2010 08:04:24 PM 1397 Views
+1 - 12/08/2010 08:06:19 PM 1344 Views
Stop with the pile on Camilla. - 12/08/2010 09:22:35 PM 1265 Views
You would have said nothing if I had just said "agreed" - 12/08/2010 09:27:33 PM 1093 Views
Which speaks highly of you.... - 12/08/2010 09:36:30 PM 1269 Views
This is being very petty. *NM* - 12/08/2010 09:41:26 PM 617 Views
As opposed to a snarky +1 comment? *NM* - 12/08/2010 09:45:02 PM 638 Views
It's not snarky. - 12/08/2010 09:47:47 PM 1245 Views
Its a +1 shorthand comment... - 12/08/2010 09:52:04 PM 1499 Views
Wow. Those two characters allowed you to read Camilla's motivations? - 12/08/2010 09:54:25 PM 1141 Views
*shrug* - 12/08/2010 09:58:42 PM 1332 Views
Yes, I am terribly selfish - 13/08/2010 09:10:54 AM 1117 Views
Re: Why do people equate.... - 12/08/2010 09:13:07 PM 1334 Views
Re: Why do people equate.... - 12/08/2010 09:26:41 PM 1214 Views
LOL - 12/08/2010 09:42:32 PM 1194 Views
Re: LOL - 13/08/2010 09:12:29 AM 1130 Views
you are exactly why the state needs to make a clear seperation between the secular and religious - 12/08/2010 09:33:22 PM 1194 Views
Ok, so if the state does then... - 12/08/2010 09:44:31 PM 1118 Views
No, marriage started because of property. - 12/08/2010 09:59:14 PM 1211 Views
So then two things come to mind... - 12/08/2010 10:04:39 PM 1194 Views
Only two? - 12/08/2010 10:27:08 PM 1188 Views
Is this the same guy... - 12/08/2010 10:43:02 PM 1097 Views
I thought the cow died in an accident, but yes... that guy. - 12/08/2010 10:58:46 PM 1167 Views
That's a little difficult to do - 13/08/2010 03:19:32 PM 1404 Views
Re: That's a little difficult to do - 13/08/2010 03:30:14 PM 1236 Views
Oh, I hope not - 13/08/2010 04:19:47 PM 1224 Views
I may be wrong - 13/08/2010 04:24:28 PM 1213 Views
Property isn't just agricultural. - 13/08/2010 06:11:12 PM 1137 Views
True enough - 16/08/2010 03:12:31 PM 1415 Views
yes but about half of the old testament deals with protecting those rights - 13/08/2010 05:16:09 PM 1180 Views
The relationship between religion and rain go even farther back... - 13/08/2010 06:15:32 PM 1191 Views
to me it is a beside the point when it comes to the law - 13/08/2010 06:25:50 PM 1179 Views
moot, not mute - 13/08/2010 08:48:04 PM 1480 Views
damn - 13/08/2010 08:52:23 PM 1279 Views
Actually, I agree with that - 12/08/2010 10:01:37 PM 1082 Views
See, now this, I could deal with.... - 12/08/2010 10:06:15 PM 1083 Views
So is it that you are hung up on the name then? - 13/08/2010 03:29:02 PM 1148 Views
Rights.... - 12/08/2010 09:34:45 PM 1171 Views
See, what I don't get is why gay people care about - 12/08/2010 08:18:45 PM 1185 Views
It's mostly about getting married in the eyes of the state. - 12/08/2010 08:42:52 PM 1292 Views
I'm fairly sure Jonte was referring only to the "churches have to accept gay marriages" bit. *NM* - 12/08/2010 08:44:52 PM 667 Views
Hmmm... Then I shall reply to that part here. - 12/08/2010 08:50:10 PM 1316 Views
Oh, so it is an american thing, then. *NM* - 14/08/2010 08:58:28 AM 607 Views
Starting again - 12/08/2010 08:23:08 PM 1311 Views
Not at all - 12/08/2010 10:58:45 PM 1210 Views
Re: Not at all - 13/08/2010 09:14:48 AM 1010 Views
Agreed *NM* - 13/08/2010 10:21:06 AM 512 Views
Oh dear - 13/08/2010 10:30:45 AM 1108 Views
But what if I like being selfish and evil? *NM* - 13/08/2010 11:25:01 AM 654 Views
Well, being English might help you get away with it - 13/08/2010 11:26:17 AM 1047 Views
I'm curious - 13/08/2010 01:49:15 PM 1168 Views
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Okay, good. - 13/08/2010 01:58:14 PM 1223 Views
I suppose you also think that religious Pacifists should be eligible for the draft? - 12/08/2010 08:42:21 PM 1262 Views
very nicely said *NM* - 13/08/2010 02:16:53 PM 520 Views

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