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Re: This has to be one of the stupidest reasons for not dating someone I've ever heard. Aeryn Send a noteboard - 24/03/2011 04:07:36 AM
You're essentially saying you're not going to date a guy because you think he should be dating a black girl. That's ridiculous. Everyone chooses who they want to date.

Furthermore, the whole notion that he should be dating a black girl is a racist notion. It has more to do with a concept of "preserving the black race" or "preserving blackness" or whatever you want to call it, that really should have no place in modern society, any more than an Aryan Nation concept about preserving the "purity of the master race" should.


Not quite. I was saying (maybe not clearly) that he would hold greater inherent value to a black woman than to me. It really isn't about racism.

I can't yet say if there are significant differences between us, that would require getting to know the person.
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Interracial dating (in the dating dilemma series) Aeryn - 23/03/2011 11:11:14 AM 2414 Views
I am not a black woman and I haven't done it ironclad - 23/03/2011 11:24:16 AM 1387 Views
Re: Aeryn - 23/03/2011 11:38:31 AM 1376 Views
Independence Day reference? Good man. *NM* Ghavrel - 23/03/2011 08:28:35 PM 661 Views
john lennon... MalkierKnight - 24/03/2011 01:08:20 PM 1432 Views
If you limit your dating pool by race you really have no reason to complain Camilla - 23/03/2011 11:57:48 AM 1314 Views
I dated a black girl for nearly 3 years. Dragonsoul - 23/03/2011 12:29:26 PM 1404 Views
ironclad - 23/03/2011 12:57:08 PM 1397 Views
LMAO Jens, you know me too well Aisha - 23/03/2011 11:30:35 PM 1285 Views
And her mother is Muslim. Dragonsoul - 24/03/2011 11:48:24 AM 1322 Views
What's it called? *NM* Legolas - 24/03/2011 10:36:28 PM 670 Views
please give him a moment to google an answer. *NM* Aisha - 25/03/2011 11:04:02 AM 676 Views
She said it's called Abu Haifa (sp?) Dragonsoul - 25/03/2011 10:38:13 PM 1285 Views
Hm, okay. Legolas - 26/03/2011 12:16:02 AM 1436 Views
That was it, Abu Hanifa. I'm poor with Arabic. Dragonsoul - 26/03/2011 01:08:12 AM 1381 Views
amazingly enough, I dont believe you. Aisha - 23/03/2011 11:32:26 PM 1415 Views
I'd prove it to you. Dragonsoul - 24/03/2011 11:47:33 AM 1309 Views
God help me, I'm agreeing with Dragonsoul. Ghavrel - 24/03/2011 09:29:56 PM 1260 Views
I think he is making it up for the benefit of this comunity Aisha - 24/03/2011 10:03:21 PM 1400 Views
Sometimes I worry about "this community"... Joel - 25/03/2011 11:33:17 PM 1506 Views
I think that would be a poor reason to not date someone random thoughts - 23/03/2011 01:07:31 PM 1396 Views
Can you edit your post and take out the cow analogies? Thanks. *NM* Vivien - 23/03/2011 03:31:51 PM 676 Views
I didn't even see the "cow & milk" analogy. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:03:02 AM 1272 Views
being offensive makes it no less true random thoughts - 24/03/2011 01:25:34 PM 1287 Views
It's true that after a certain age, average men have an easier time finding dates Helene - 24/03/2011 01:31:35 PM 1274 Views
I don't date so I don't have personal experience random thoughts - 24/03/2011 03:29:50 PM 1264 Views
I don't date either... :-) Helene - 24/03/2011 03:42:33 PM 1483 Views
I think you're doing him a disservice. nossy - 23/03/2011 02:16:59 PM 1366 Views
This. Plus, to try to frame it more in A's terms... Sareitha Sedai - 23/03/2011 03:05:55 PM 1314 Views
It can add extra complications that negatively impact the likelihood of a successful relationship Helene - 23/03/2011 02:50:39 PM 1301 Views
What I forgot to mention in the post Helene - 23/03/2011 03:01:04 PM 1271 Views
Re: What I forgot to mention in the post Aeryn - 24/03/2011 05:11:11 AM 1326 Views
If you have a lot in common with him and like him and are attracted to him Helene - 24/03/2011 09:41:01 AM 1207 Views
I think you should date him. Palatine - 23/03/2011 03:02:56 PM 1214 Views
I think you should date this guy if you like him. Morgawse - 23/03/2011 03:07:30 PM 1266 Views
I think that you're doing both of you a disservice. Jeordam - 23/03/2011 03:09:29 PM 1309 Views
I agree with you. Vivien - 23/03/2011 03:26:02 PM 1300 Views
And my opinion matters more than everyone else here combined! MWAHAHAHAHAHA Vivien - 23/03/2011 03:28:06 PM 1261 Views
Well, you know your sis better than we do... ironclad - 23/03/2011 03:48:12 PM 1267 Views
Because you never know. Vivien - 23/03/2011 04:00:44 PM 1448 Views
Geez you know just the right things to say. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 03:38:34 AM 1289 Views
LOL. ( Yes I really did laugh out loud) *NM* Vivien - 24/03/2011 03:55:22 AM 648 Views
Most of the other responses are ignoring your reasons. Vivien - 23/03/2011 03:34:56 PM 1237 Views
No one should try to think from "the perspective of black women", not even 1 black woman can do that Helene - 23/03/2011 03:47:34 PM 1297 Views
Re Vivien - 23/03/2011 04:05:20 PM 1437 Views
I'm sure that Aeryn is lovely, but she's not the only lovely white woman in the world Helene - 24/03/2011 09:43:32 AM 1277 Views
Or nossy - 23/03/2011 03:47:56 PM 1275 Views
We have no control over how other people act. Vivien - 23/03/2011 04:07:11 PM 1408 Views
I agree completely. nossy - 23/03/2011 04:17:59 PM 1375 Views
And it's a bit silly to determine for someone else who he should be dating *NM* Helene - 24/03/2011 09:33:09 AM 616 Views
This has to be one of the stupidest reasons for not dating someone I've ever heard. Tom - 23/03/2011 03:54:15 PM 1300 Views
Your opinion: less than nothing. Vivien - 23/03/2011 04:10:24 PM 1370 Views
Who are you? Dark Knight - 23/03/2011 08:37:43 PM 1424 Views
It's extremely unlikely that Tom was offended. Vivien - 23/03/2011 09:04:42 PM 1319 Views
I'm glad you're back, by the way. These threads are great. *NM* Ghavrel - 23/03/2011 09:15:41 PM 688 Views
Thank you. *NM* Vivien - 24/03/2011 04:01:08 AM 675 Views
I'm not offended, only amused at your poor logic. Tom - 23/03/2011 09:24:05 PM 1346 Views
That's lawyer logic! Vivien - 24/03/2011 03:50:37 AM 1275 Views
Is there any other kind? *NM* Tom - 24/03/2011 02:05:27 PM 657 Views
Ooh that's harsh. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 03:48:50 AM 1272 Views
This is all I get???? Vivien - 24/03/2011 03:54:22 AM 1327 Views
Oh, I appreciate. There's cake in the fridge *NM* Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:27:20 AM 632 Views
You two are sooo cute! *NM* ironclad - 24/03/2011 07:29:12 PM 543 Views
+1, though I probably wouldn't have said it in quite the same way. Joel - 23/03/2011 11:03:07 PM 1287 Views
Yup. beetnemesis - 24/03/2011 01:42:16 AM 1370 Views
That's a good analogy. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 03:50:17 AM 1395 Views
Shrug. She likes *me*. Plus, Jewish guys love Asian girls, well-known fact. beetnemesis - 24/03/2011 04:46:56 AM 1292 Views
So it's not her choice who she wants to date, but everyone around her?? Helene - 24/03/2011 09:39:58 AM 1250 Views
What's wrong with wanting to preserve races or ethnic groups? ßelals Girl - 24/03/2011 02:09:02 AM 1331 Views
When its the black race? *NM* Urza - 24/03/2011 02:21:13 AM 664 Views
You're such an ass *NM* ßelals Girl - 24/03/2011 02:52:12 AM 642 Views
*butts in* nossy - 24/03/2011 02:45:26 AM 1353 Views
"It would be wrong, immortal [sic] even". Tom - 24/03/2011 02:52:21 AM 1391 Views
Or potentially not (directly) from Africa nossy - 24/03/2011 03:06:36 AM 1205 Views
I've only seen "identifies as" when someone is of mixed race. *NM* Tom - 24/03/2011 03:09:51 AM 619 Views
You're absolutely right. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:14:49 AM 1322 Views
Then your argument is even sillier, as mixed race is too white Helene - 24/03/2011 09:50:15 AM 1183 Views
Is he "identifying as" black in a cultural context as well? Tom - 24/03/2011 02:04:43 PM 1168 Views
Re: *butts in* ßelals Girl - 24/03/2011 03:03:14 AM 1204 Views
You're a damn genius! nossy - 24/03/2011 03:09:26 AM 1304 Views
I don't feel like one ßelals Girl - 25/03/2011 01:17:07 AM 1262 Views
Re: This has to be one of the stupidest reasons for not dating someone I've ever heard. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:07:36 AM 1332 Views
That could be argued in the opposite way just as easily. Helene - 24/03/2011 09:48:16 AM 1267 Views
Huh Aeryn - 25/03/2011 11:15:58 AM 1274 Views
Are you looking for reasons not to date him, or are you just being overly socially conscience? Beqi - 23/03/2011 08:12:48 PM 1273 Views
Ha. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:17:26 AM 1286 Views
Heh, that really is the best thing *NM* beetnemesis - 24/03/2011 04:48:07 AM 665 Views
...wat. Is this a serious post? Ghavrel - 23/03/2011 08:23:04 PM 1285 Views
Kinda? Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:23:12 AM 1337 Views
I just broke up with my Pakistani girlfriend Dark Knight - 23/03/2011 08:24:52 PM 1264 Views
Heh heh heh heh snoopcester - 23/03/2011 08:25:06 PM 1127 Views
Ha, I didn't even see that typo. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 05:14:40 AM 1177 Views
<3 You Ana, BUT Urza - 23/03/2011 08:44:11 PM 1270 Views
wait. did you..? Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:37:23 AM 1274 Views
Your taken aback by this why? Urza - 24/03/2011 06:30:46 AM 1333 Views
I thought this was a great post. Legolas - 23/03/2011 10:26:08 PM 1338 Views
Glad I could entertain. *NM* Aeryn - 24/03/2011 03:47:48 AM 598 Views
I understand what you are saying. Tashmere - 23/03/2011 11:04:44 PM 1272 Views
An ally! Score! Vivien - 24/03/2011 03:56:53 AM 1231 Views
Aw, you're a darling. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:26:39 AM 1278 Views
Also somebody brought up the valid point of his rights. Tashmere - 26/03/2011 11:55:49 PM 1280 Views
There's not a wealth of eligible men from any race; maybe you should just stop dating entirely. Joel - 23/03/2011 11:27:40 PM 1213 Views
Well, yeah. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:49:47 AM 1136 Views
The critically large word is "if"; your reasoning is setting off massive circular claxons for me. Joel - 25/03/2011 11:30:15 PM 1083 Views
he is not a resource, he is a man. *NM* Aisha - 23/03/2011 11:29:37 PM 719 Views
Cock is a resource. *NM* Urza - 23/03/2011 11:43:39 PM 633 Views
"Efficient allocation of cock?" Oh my, that sounds really wrong. *NM* Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:32:23 AM 635 Views
seriously? that is dumb. date the man. also, it is dehumanising to refer to him as a resource. temeraire - 24/03/2011 12:52:38 AM 1333 Views
This is exactly it. Dan - 24/03/2011 04:02:10 AM 1332 Views
I didn't quite. I was talking about the economic principle. *NM* Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:42:57 AM 619 Views
<--Black Guy Post Daiyon - 24/03/2011 12:57:13 AM 1424 Views
Re: Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:53:07 AM 1319 Views
Um. rebelaessedai - 24/03/2011 01:00:47 AM 1445 Views
Well, according to stand-up comics who specialize in racially based humor... TaskmasterJack - 24/03/2011 01:29:35 AM 1337 Views
Practical advice. I like it. Aeryn - 24/03/2011 03:58:24 AM 1341 Views
Practical advice! *NM* Vivien - 24/03/2011 03:58:34 AM 621 Views
... how did you? *NM* Aeryn - 24/03/2011 04:31:14 AM 695 Views
I don't know! Our posts are about 1/10 of a second apart, freaky. *NM* Vivien - 24/03/2011 04:35:23 AM 626 Views
1/6 of a minute. But it's still a comical coincidence. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 24/03/2011 09:52:19 PM 657 Views
But that means if he's OK with it he's a commodity more rare and valuable than gold. Joel - 25/03/2011 11:37:48 PM 1194 Views
I present to you: A VISION OF THE FUTURE-UTRE-UTRE-UTRE beetnemesis - 24/03/2011 02:19:19 AM 1392 Views
Oh, that was awesome *NM* Aeryn - 24/03/2011 03:37:01 AM 666 Views
+ 10 best post ever. I can't believe how funny that was. *NM* Timthetrolloc - 24/03/2011 03:54:39 AM 677 Views
What just happened? *NM* Ghavrel - 24/03/2011 04:04:45 AM 627 Views
*NM* ironclad - 24/03/2011 08:32:36 AM 553 Views
Awesome *NM* Stephen - 24/03/2011 09:03:13 AM 732 Views
I am currently dating a black woman... MightyYT - 24/03/2011 06:29:03 AM 1279 Views
...I always figured your name was a Snow Crash reference *NM* beetnemesis - 24/03/2011 03:48:53 PM 651 Views
I have had the nickname longer than that has been out. *NM* MightyYT - 24/03/2011 07:08:02 PM 677 Views
Don't date him. Stephen - 24/03/2011 09:44:30 AM 1278 Views
Its not likely anyone will read this comment since there are so many already MalkierKnight - 24/03/2011 01:12:19 PM 1490 Views
She's not talking about welfare queens, she's talking about well educated black women Helene - 24/03/2011 01:33:48 PM 1345 Views
It is. *NM* Ghavrel - 24/03/2011 09:33:01 PM 606 Views
this might help you understand what she is talking about random thoughts - 25/03/2011 02:24:35 PM 1352 Views
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