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I should have read this first. Sareitha Sedai Send a noteboard - 19/04/2011 02:25:16 PM
My only question there is if it was so important to him to not go, why didn't he say so instead of going with the cop-out "I'll think about it" line? Would you not be more willing to accept an honest answer you didn't like than for your husband to try and dodge the bullet entirely? I know my wife would, with me.


If they have had rows in the past about going to see her family, he might have tried being honest and explaining why he didn't want to go before and learnt that "I'll think about it" works to at least put off the blazing row they'll have.


Could have saved myself some typing.

Also, he might actually have intended to think about it and weigh not wanting to go against knowing she wanted him to, though admittedly it doesn't sound that way from Helene's descriptions.

If you are from Betelgeuse, please have one of your Earth friends read what I've written before you respond. Or try concentrating harder.

"The trophy problem has become extreme."
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Relationship - positive development or signs of eventual break down? Helene - 19/04/2011 08:48:26 AM 2028 Views
Helene, I want to give you an answer but... Urza - 19/04/2011 08:58:45 AM 1172 Views
Fair enough Helene - 19/04/2011 10:01:51 AM 1124 Views
Not all inlaws are bad, you know, I prefer some of my inlaws to my own family. *NM* Macharius - 19/04/2011 01:56:03 PM 577 Views
inlaws are not always bad random thoughts - 19/04/2011 02:10:18 PM 1089 Views
I spend way more time with my in-laws than with my own family. Sareitha Sedai - 19/04/2011 02:17:41 PM 1070 Views
I'm like this with my future in-laws too. *NM* Clover - 19/04/2011 04:47:05 PM 558 Views
I think they are right ironclad - 19/04/2011 10:20:39 AM 1307 Views
I see your point Helene - 19/04/2011 10:42:51 AM 1260 Views
Re: I think they are right Macharius - 19/04/2011 01:59:57 PM 1139 Views
I think that's an unfair assumption. Sareitha Sedai - 19/04/2011 02:16:54 PM 1052 Views
What he said about his wife's mother Helene - 19/04/2011 02:59:32 PM 1234 Views
Ew. I would have a problem with that too. Something about that attitude makes me dig in my heels. Tashmere - 20/04/2011 01:37:38 AM 983 Views
No offense... ironclad - 19/04/2011 02:35:53 PM 1212 Views
yes but have you found such a thing? random thoughts - 19/04/2011 03:05:35 PM 1143 Views
For now I have *NM* ironclad - 19/04/2011 03:08:17 PM 584 Views
how long has it been? *NM* random thoughts - 19/04/2011 03:16:32 PM 569 Views
Don't try to corrupt me with your long term pessimism ironclad - 19/04/2011 03:34:39 PM 1089 Views
sadly I seem attracted to the crazies *NM* random thoughts - 19/04/2011 04:08:14 PM 555 Views
Yes. But it didn't start out like that. Took years to chip away all our rough edges. Tashmere - 20/04/2011 01:40:29 AM 1153 Views
Could be either snoopcester - 19/04/2011 10:30:50 AM 1186 Views
True enough... Helene - 19/04/2011 10:44:28 AM 1163 Views
My opinion is the latter. Macharius - 19/04/2011 01:55:00 PM 1154 Views
He definitely has a point about realistic expectations Sareitha Sedai - 19/04/2011 01:56:49 PM 1130 Views
Re: He definitely has a point about realistic expectations Macharius - 19/04/2011 02:07:34 PM 1125 Views
Re: He definitely has a point about realistic expectations snoopcester - 19/04/2011 02:13:25 PM 1237 Views
I should have read this first. Sareitha Sedai - 19/04/2011 02:25:16 PM 1168 Views
Re: He definitely has a point about realistic expectations Sareitha Sedai - 19/04/2011 02:23:14 PM 1148 Views
You don't strike me as the "screeching-howler-monkey" type to begin with. *NM* Macharius - 19/04/2011 03:33:41 PM 565 Views
I love just about everything about you Sareitha. Good answers all. *NM* Tashmere - 20/04/2011 01:26:34 AM 534 Views
I translated "I will think about it" as a secret but obvious code for. "I don't really want to but Tashmere - 20/04/2011 01:34:36 AM 1257 Views
that's what I would have meant if I said "I'll think about it" *NM* LadyLorraine - 20/04/2011 02:00:33 AM 524 Views
The fact that you are referring to a fiancé and comparing it to wife says a lot random thoughts - 19/04/2011 02:09:27 PM 1249 Views
To be fair, me and my fiance have been together for about as long as they have Helene - 19/04/2011 02:57:03 PM 1082 Views
I don't know about everyone but things changed when we got married random thoughts - 19/04/2011 03:16:11 PM 1126 Views
How did things change? Helene - 19/04/2011 04:14:56 PM 1127 Views
Like I said I can only speak for myself random thoughts - 19/04/2011 04:54:04 PM 1163 Views
There's already a 10 year old in the picture for us Helene - 19/04/2011 06:52:44 PM 1112 Views
My husband and I don't understand why people say this. rebelaessedai - 20/04/2011 01:03:31 AM 1245 Views
I did say I was only speaking for myself random thoughts - 20/04/2011 01:58:45 PM 1129 Views
I know. rebelaessedai - 20/04/2011 09:01:11 PM 1373 Views
Sorry for some reason I thought you had just got married. random thoughts - 20/04/2011 09:52:24 PM 1589 Views
Good luck to them! *NM* rebelaessedai - 22/04/2011 04:25:38 AM 545 Views
Re: The fact that you are referring to a fiancé and comparing it to wife says a lot Tihs Tnuc - 19/04/2011 04:34:34 PM 1043 Views
From the information that you have presented... Jeordam - 19/04/2011 03:50:19 PM 1311 Views
I am in agreement with you, and I'm not particularly Christian. Helene - 19/04/2011 04:11:57 PM 1063 Views
Which is sad (not the agreement, but their potential future) Jeordam - 19/04/2011 06:29:47 PM 1146 Views
Oh yes... I'm of course not sure. I can be way off base :-) Let's hope I am. Helene - 19/04/2011 06:55:13 PM 1126 Views
Could go either way. Dannymac - 19/04/2011 04:36:02 PM 1093 Views
I get the impression that it's more about her forming toward him than vice versa Helene - 19/04/2011 06:56:37 PM 1109 Views
Giving up is one thing, growing past is another. Dannymac - 19/04/2011 10:00:55 PM 1058 Views
Oh, to be fair, he's the friend and she's the wife Helene - 20/04/2011 08:43:12 AM 1017 Views
I don't necessarily think it will end in a breakup or divorce. Clover - 19/04/2011 04:44:11 PM 1075 Views
I think you are 100% right about having a good realtionship with your spouse's family random thoughts - 19/04/2011 05:07:12 PM 1088 Views
I think this is about priorities. rebelaessedai - 20/04/2011 01:07:20 AM 1248 Views
Our priorities may shift over time, too. We're still very young and more tied to our families. Clover - 20/04/2011 03:09:54 AM 1072 Views
Even when younger, I was independent. rebelaessedai - 20/04/2011 05:29:59 AM 1006 Views
*nods* Clover - 20/04/2011 06:25:29 AM 1167 Views
rebelaessedai - 22/04/2011 04:29:32 AM 1358 Views
Not the former for sure, and maybe not the latter. Palatine - 19/04/2011 05:55:03 PM 1127 Views
I think it's impossible for me to judge their future status without knowing more about them LadyLorraine - 19/04/2011 07:22:32 PM 1095 Views
Can't tell. nossy - 19/04/2011 10:04:27 PM 1053 Views
I'm with the 'can't tell' crowd. Antigone - 19/04/2011 11:37:17 PM 1494 Views
hell, or she could just not care too much at all LadyLorraine - 19/04/2011 11:43:21 PM 1078 Views
What you said in the original question wouldn't neccessarily mean much to me either way. Tashmere - 20/04/2011 01:56:55 AM 1108 Views
It's not all out "she's worthless", it's more like "she's a bit silly with all her wishes" Helene - 20/04/2011 08:46:49 AM 1073 Views
That would still be a deal breaker for me. Tashmere - 20/04/2011 11:49:09 PM 1080 Views
I'm leaning more towards your interpretation. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 20/04/2011 02:15:22 AM 524 Views
I don't know. *NM* (I feel bad for the 20 people who viewed this message- my apologies) Vivien - 20/04/2011 04:36:13 AM 1133 Views
I'm with you on this. *NM* Camilla - 20/04/2011 10:00:41 AM 571 Views
*sigh* Yunalesca - 20/04/2011 09:25:02 PM 1213 Views
Re: I mean, it's not good. *NM* Gaps - 20/04/2011 11:50:21 PM 513 Views
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