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Giving up is one thing, growing past is another. Dannymac Send a noteboard - 19/04/2011 10:00:55 PM
She's your friend, and so it is only natural for you to be a bit protective of her in all of this. And honestly, you could be right. It may be worth mentioning to her, but all you can do is mention it. If it is a problem, and not just relationship growth, it can really only be fixed from the inside.
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Relationship - positive development or signs of eventual break down? Helene - 19/04/2011 08:48:26 AM 2167 Views
Helene, I want to give you an answer but... Urza - 19/04/2011 08:58:45 AM 1293 Views
Fair enough Helene - 19/04/2011 10:01:51 AM 1242 Views
Not all inlaws are bad, you know, I prefer some of my inlaws to my own family. *NM* Macharius - 19/04/2011 01:56:03 PM 637 Views
inlaws are not always bad random thoughts - 19/04/2011 02:10:18 PM 1222 Views
I spend way more time with my in-laws than with my own family. Sareitha Sedai - 19/04/2011 02:17:41 PM 1187 Views
I'm like this with my future in-laws too. *NM* Clover - 19/04/2011 04:47:05 PM 617 Views
I think they are right ironclad - 19/04/2011 10:20:39 AM 1411 Views
I see your point Helene - 19/04/2011 10:42:51 AM 1391 Views
Re: I think they are right Macharius - 19/04/2011 01:59:57 PM 1263 Views
I think that's an unfair assumption. Sareitha Sedai - 19/04/2011 02:16:54 PM 1168 Views
What he said about his wife's mother Helene - 19/04/2011 02:59:32 PM 1334 Views
Ew. I would have a problem with that too. Something about that attitude makes me dig in my heels. Tashmere - 20/04/2011 01:37:38 AM 1088 Views
No offense... ironclad - 19/04/2011 02:35:53 PM 1319 Views
yes but have you found such a thing? random thoughts - 19/04/2011 03:05:35 PM 1253 Views
For now I have *NM* ironclad - 19/04/2011 03:08:17 PM 637 Views
how long has it been? *NM* random thoughts - 19/04/2011 03:16:32 PM 633 Views
Don't try to corrupt me with your long term pessimism ironclad - 19/04/2011 03:34:39 PM 1193 Views
sadly I seem attracted to the crazies *NM* random thoughts - 19/04/2011 04:08:14 PM 603 Views
Yes. But it didn't start out like that. Took years to chip away all our rough edges. Tashmere - 20/04/2011 01:40:29 AM 1264 Views
Could be either snoopcester - 19/04/2011 10:30:50 AM 1305 Views
True enough... Helene - 19/04/2011 10:44:28 AM 1280 Views
My opinion is the latter. Macharius - 19/04/2011 01:55:00 PM 1272 Views
He definitely has a point about realistic expectations Sareitha Sedai - 19/04/2011 01:56:49 PM 1266 Views
Re: He definitely has a point about realistic expectations Macharius - 19/04/2011 02:07:34 PM 1226 Views
Re: He definitely has a point about realistic expectations snoopcester - 19/04/2011 02:13:25 PM 1354 Views
I should have read this first. Sareitha Sedai - 19/04/2011 02:25:16 PM 1286 Views
Re: He definitely has a point about realistic expectations Sareitha Sedai - 19/04/2011 02:23:14 PM 1264 Views
You don't strike me as the "screeching-howler-monkey" type to begin with. *NM* Macharius - 19/04/2011 03:33:41 PM 613 Views
I love just about everything about you Sareitha. Good answers all. *NM* Tashmere - 20/04/2011 01:26:34 AM 587 Views
I translated "I will think about it" as a secret but obvious code for. "I don't really want to but Tashmere - 20/04/2011 01:34:36 AM 1374 Views
that's what I would have meant if I said "I'll think about it" *NM* LadyLorraine - 20/04/2011 02:00:33 AM 575 Views
The fact that you are referring to a fiancé and comparing it to wife says a lot random thoughts - 19/04/2011 02:09:27 PM 1363 Views
To be fair, me and my fiance have been together for about as long as they have Helene - 19/04/2011 02:57:03 PM 1182 Views
I don't know about everyone but things changed when we got married random thoughts - 19/04/2011 03:16:11 PM 1257 Views
How did things change? Helene - 19/04/2011 04:14:56 PM 1258 Views
Like I said I can only speak for myself random thoughts - 19/04/2011 04:54:04 PM 1264 Views
There's already a 10 year old in the picture for us Helene - 19/04/2011 06:52:44 PM 1239 Views
My husband and I don't understand why people say this. rebelaessedai - 20/04/2011 01:03:31 AM 1364 Views
I did say I was only speaking for myself random thoughts - 20/04/2011 01:58:45 PM 1262 Views
I know. rebelaessedai - 20/04/2011 09:01:11 PM 1469 Views
Sorry for some reason I thought you had just got married. random thoughts - 20/04/2011 09:52:24 PM 1706 Views
Good luck to them! *NM* rebelaessedai - 22/04/2011 04:25:38 AM 606 Views
Re: The fact that you are referring to a fiancé and comparing it to wife says a lot Tihs Tnuc - 19/04/2011 04:34:34 PM 1152 Views
From the information that you have presented... Jeordam - 19/04/2011 03:50:19 PM 1413 Views
I am in agreement with you, and I'm not particularly Christian. Helene - 19/04/2011 04:11:57 PM 1199 Views
Which is sad (not the agreement, but their potential future) Jeordam - 19/04/2011 06:29:47 PM 1260 Views
Oh yes... I'm of course not sure. I can be way off base :-) Let's hope I am. Helene - 19/04/2011 06:55:13 PM 1237 Views
Could go either way. Dannymac - 19/04/2011 04:36:02 PM 1202 Views
I get the impression that it's more about her forming toward him than vice versa Helene - 19/04/2011 06:56:37 PM 1218 Views
Giving up is one thing, growing past is another. Dannymac - 19/04/2011 10:00:55 PM 1190 Views
Oh, to be fair, he's the friend and she's the wife Helene - 20/04/2011 08:43:12 AM 1122 Views
I don't necessarily think it will end in a breakup or divorce. Clover - 19/04/2011 04:44:11 PM 1193 Views
I think you are 100% right about having a good realtionship with your spouse's family random thoughts - 19/04/2011 05:07:12 PM 1215 Views
I think this is about priorities. rebelaessedai - 20/04/2011 01:07:20 AM 1361 Views
Our priorities may shift over time, too. We're still very young and more tied to our families. Clover - 20/04/2011 03:09:54 AM 1192 Views
Even when younger, I was independent. rebelaessedai - 20/04/2011 05:29:59 AM 1147 Views
*nods* Clover - 20/04/2011 06:25:29 AM 1268 Views
rebelaessedai - 22/04/2011 04:29:32 AM 1457 Views
Not the former for sure, and maybe not the latter. Palatine - 19/04/2011 05:55:03 PM 1263 Views
I think it's impossible for me to judge their future status without knowing more about them LadyLorraine - 19/04/2011 07:22:32 PM 1222 Views
Can't tell. nossy - 19/04/2011 10:04:27 PM 1191 Views
I'm with the 'can't tell' crowd. Antigone - 19/04/2011 11:37:17 PM 1619 Views
hell, or she could just not care too much at all LadyLorraine - 19/04/2011 11:43:21 PM 1190 Views
What you said in the original question wouldn't neccessarily mean much to me either way. Tashmere - 20/04/2011 01:56:55 AM 1221 Views
It's not all out "she's worthless", it's more like "she's a bit silly with all her wishes" Helene - 20/04/2011 08:46:49 AM 1189 Views
That would still be a deal breaker for me. Tashmere - 20/04/2011 11:49:09 PM 1189 Views
I'm leaning more towards your interpretation. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 20/04/2011 02:15:22 AM 581 Views
I don't know. *NM* (I feel bad for the 20 people who viewed this message- my apologies) Vivien - 20/04/2011 04:36:13 AM 1247 Views
I'm with you on this. *NM* Camilla - 20/04/2011 10:00:41 AM 642 Views
*sigh* Yunalesca - 20/04/2011 09:25:02 PM 1334 Views
Re: I mean, it's not good. *NM* Gaps - 20/04/2011 11:50:21 PM 568 Views
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