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Giving up is one thing, growing past is another. Dannymac Send a noteboard - 19/04/2011 10:00:55 PM
She's your friend, and so it is only natural for you to be a bit protective of her in all of this. And honestly, you could be right. It may be worth mentioning to her, but all you can do is mention it. If it is a problem, and not just relationship growth, it can really only be fixed from the inside.
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Relationship - positive development or signs of eventual break down? Helene - 19/04/2011 08:48:26 AM 2113 Views
Helene, I want to give you an answer but... Urza - 19/04/2011 08:58:45 AM 1237 Views
Fair enough Helene - 19/04/2011 10:01:51 AM 1194 Views
Not all inlaws are bad, you know, I prefer some of my inlaws to my own family. *NM* Macharius - 19/04/2011 01:56:03 PM 612 Views
inlaws are not always bad random thoughts - 19/04/2011 02:10:18 PM 1159 Views
I spend way more time with my in-laws than with my own family. Sareitha Sedai - 19/04/2011 02:17:41 PM 1127 Views
I'm like this with my future in-laws too. *NM* Clover - 19/04/2011 04:47:05 PM 590 Views
I think they are right ironclad - 19/04/2011 10:20:39 AM 1364 Views
I see your point Helene - 19/04/2011 10:42:51 AM 1335 Views
Re: I think they are right Macharius - 19/04/2011 01:59:57 PM 1211 Views
I think that's an unfair assumption. Sareitha Sedai - 19/04/2011 02:16:54 PM 1125 Views
What he said about his wife's mother Helene - 19/04/2011 02:59:32 PM 1279 Views
Ew. I would have a problem with that too. Something about that attitude makes me dig in my heels. Tashmere - 20/04/2011 01:37:38 AM 1042 Views
No offense... ironclad - 19/04/2011 02:35:53 PM 1277 Views
yes but have you found such a thing? random thoughts - 19/04/2011 03:05:35 PM 1203 Views
For now I have *NM* ironclad - 19/04/2011 03:08:17 PM 611 Views
how long has it been? *NM* random thoughts - 19/04/2011 03:16:32 PM 606 Views
Don't try to corrupt me with your long term pessimism ironclad - 19/04/2011 03:34:39 PM 1142 Views
sadly I seem attracted to the crazies *NM* random thoughts - 19/04/2011 04:08:14 PM 586 Views
Yes. But it didn't start out like that. Took years to chip away all our rough edges. Tashmere - 20/04/2011 01:40:29 AM 1214 Views
Could be either snoopcester - 19/04/2011 10:30:50 AM 1254 Views
True enough... Helene - 19/04/2011 10:44:28 AM 1228 Views
My opinion is the latter. Macharius - 19/04/2011 01:55:00 PM 1227 Views
He definitely has a point about realistic expectations Sareitha Sedai - 19/04/2011 01:56:49 PM 1211 Views
Re: He definitely has a point about realistic expectations Macharius - 19/04/2011 02:07:34 PM 1174 Views
Re: He definitely has a point about realistic expectations snoopcester - 19/04/2011 02:13:25 PM 1307 Views
I should have read this first. Sareitha Sedai - 19/04/2011 02:25:16 PM 1234 Views
Re: He definitely has a point about realistic expectations Sareitha Sedai - 19/04/2011 02:23:14 PM 1221 Views
You don't strike me as the "screeching-howler-monkey" type to begin with. *NM* Macharius - 19/04/2011 03:33:41 PM 587 Views
I love just about everything about you Sareitha. Good answers all. *NM* Tashmere - 20/04/2011 01:26:34 AM 558 Views
I translated "I will think about it" as a secret but obvious code for. "I don't really want to but Tashmere - 20/04/2011 01:34:36 AM 1327 Views
that's what I would have meant if I said "I'll think about it" *NM* LadyLorraine - 20/04/2011 02:00:33 AM 555 Views
The fact that you are referring to a fiancé and comparing it to wife says a lot random thoughts - 19/04/2011 02:09:27 PM 1322 Views
To be fair, me and my fiance have been together for about as long as they have Helene - 19/04/2011 02:57:03 PM 1136 Views
I don't know about everyone but things changed when we got married random thoughts - 19/04/2011 03:16:11 PM 1201 Views
How did things change? Helene - 19/04/2011 04:14:56 PM 1209 Views
Like I said I can only speak for myself random thoughts - 19/04/2011 04:54:04 PM 1225 Views
There's already a 10 year old in the picture for us Helene - 19/04/2011 06:52:44 PM 1192 Views
My husband and I don't understand why people say this. rebelaessedai - 20/04/2011 01:03:31 AM 1315 Views
I did say I was only speaking for myself random thoughts - 20/04/2011 01:58:45 PM 1212 Views
I know. rebelaessedai - 20/04/2011 09:01:11 PM 1421 Views
Sorry for some reason I thought you had just got married. random thoughts - 20/04/2011 09:52:24 PM 1652 Views
Good luck to them! *NM* rebelaessedai - 22/04/2011 04:25:38 AM 579 Views
Re: The fact that you are referring to a fiancé and comparing it to wife says a lot Tihs Tnuc - 19/04/2011 04:34:34 PM 1114 Views
From the information that you have presented... Jeordam - 19/04/2011 03:50:19 PM 1370 Views
I am in agreement with you, and I'm not particularly Christian. Helene - 19/04/2011 04:11:57 PM 1139 Views
Which is sad (not the agreement, but their potential future) Jeordam - 19/04/2011 06:29:47 PM 1206 Views
Oh yes... I'm of course not sure. I can be way off base :-) Let's hope I am. Helene - 19/04/2011 06:55:13 PM 1189 Views
Could go either way. Dannymac - 19/04/2011 04:36:02 PM 1154 Views
I get the impression that it's more about her forming toward him than vice versa Helene - 19/04/2011 06:56:37 PM 1171 Views
Giving up is one thing, growing past is another. Dannymac - 19/04/2011 10:00:55 PM 1137 Views
Oh, to be fair, he's the friend and she's the wife Helene - 20/04/2011 08:43:12 AM 1076 Views
I don't necessarily think it will end in a breakup or divorce. Clover - 19/04/2011 04:44:11 PM 1136 Views
I think you are 100% right about having a good realtionship with your spouse's family random thoughts - 19/04/2011 05:07:12 PM 1159 Views
I think this is about priorities. rebelaessedai - 20/04/2011 01:07:20 AM 1316 Views
Our priorities may shift over time, too. We're still very young and more tied to our families. Clover - 20/04/2011 03:09:54 AM 1145 Views
Even when younger, I was independent. rebelaessedai - 20/04/2011 05:29:59 AM 1093 Views
*nods* Clover - 20/04/2011 06:25:29 AM 1229 Views
rebelaessedai - 22/04/2011 04:29:32 AM 1412 Views
Not the former for sure, and maybe not the latter. Palatine - 19/04/2011 05:55:03 PM 1211 Views
I think it's impossible for me to judge their future status without knowing more about them LadyLorraine - 19/04/2011 07:22:32 PM 1171 Views
Can't tell. nossy - 19/04/2011 10:04:27 PM 1132 Views
I'm with the 'can't tell' crowd. Antigone - 19/04/2011 11:37:17 PM 1567 Views
hell, or she could just not care too much at all LadyLorraine - 19/04/2011 11:43:21 PM 1144 Views
What you said in the original question wouldn't neccessarily mean much to me either way. Tashmere - 20/04/2011 01:56:55 AM 1176 Views
It's not all out "she's worthless", it's more like "she's a bit silly with all her wishes" Helene - 20/04/2011 08:46:49 AM 1136 Views
That would still be a deal breaker for me. Tashmere - 20/04/2011 11:49:09 PM 1145 Views
I'm leaning more towards your interpretation. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 20/04/2011 02:15:22 AM 553 Views
I don't know. *NM* (I feel bad for the 20 people who viewed this message- my apologies) Vivien - 20/04/2011 04:36:13 AM 1203 Views
I'm with you on this. *NM* Camilla - 20/04/2011 10:00:41 AM 615 Views
*sigh* Yunalesca - 20/04/2011 09:25:02 PM 1286 Views
Re: I mean, it's not good. *NM* Gaps - 20/04/2011 11:50:21 PM 544 Views
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