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If it isn't about the sex then swinging really won't help *NM* random thoughts Send a noteboard - 12/02/2013 12:55:27 PM
One, continue as you are, and likely eventually succumb to cheating. It'll be fun but you may suffer from guilt, and the situation will undoubtedly implode at some point.

Two, give up the flirting, be faithful purely to your wife.

Three, divorce your wife, because it's possible no matter how perfect you think the two of you are, marriage and monogamy simply aren't for you.

Four, talk this over with your wife, and enter an open relationship, pursue swinging, or something else along such lines. Or if she's completely opposed to it, you have the first three options--only with option one now being exponentially more difficult to carry out.

All of these have their upsides and their downsides, because you're in a shitty situation and therefore have shitty possibilities. My advice, if she's actually "the love of your life" then drop the flirting and keep it within socially acceptable bounds. If, however, on serious reflection you aren't certain that you are as deeply in love with your wife as you first thought, you will likely be better off independent of her. Nothing wrong with being single. It all just depends on what things matter to you most, and where you want to be in 5 or 10 years.
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I am on the verge of having an affair - 11/02/2013 11:41:57 PM 1841 Views
Ditch the wife or stop being a prat. - 12/02/2013 12:30:30 AM 1100 Views
Great. Helpful advice - 12/02/2013 12:33:36 AM 986 Views
What exactly do you want to hear? - 12/02/2013 12:47:06 AM 963 Views
I don't know, something helpful - 12/02/2013 12:59:23 AM 1030 Views
The telling you to grow up bit wasn't the advice - 12/02/2013 01:09:54 AM 989 Views
So there is no situation in which advice helps? - 12/02/2013 01:23:21 AM 1036 Views
I didn't say nobody could help you at all - 12/02/2013 01:41:19 AM 1015 Views
You're assuming a moral absolute - 12/02/2013 02:06:13 AM 1199 Views
It is called forsaking all others, and yes there are absolutes. - 13/02/2013 05:58:20 PM 1099 Views
My opinion ... - 12/02/2013 01:21:38 AM 1022 Views
That's not really advice - 12/02/2013 01:28:42 AM 1030 Views
Why is it obvious? - 12/02/2013 01:42:26 AM 1051 Views
That's exactly what I'm looking for - 12/02/2013 02:11:51 AM 1220 Views
I don't know if that's realistic. - 12/02/2013 05:46:48 AM 972 Views
What exactly did you want to hear? - 12/02/2013 04:31:56 AM 935 Views
More holier-than-thou judgment. Great thanks. *NM* - 12/02/2013 04:50:36 AM 650 Views
Well, he's a pastor, so he probably is holier-than-thou. *NM* - 12/02/2013 07:48:55 PM 520 Views
So what you wanted was a high five? - 13/02/2013 04:21:57 PM 955 Views
role play. *NM* - 12/02/2013 04:41:07 AM 531 Views
You have 4 options - 12/02/2013 06:03:43 AM 957 Views
If it isn't about the sex then swinging really won't help *NM* - 12/02/2013 12:55:27 PM 505 Views
So, you ask for advice, then get upset when you don't like it? - 12/02/2013 06:04:07 AM 961 Views
It's probably the way you phrased it. - 12/02/2013 08:41:06 AM 1172 Views
find another passion - 12/02/2013 01:01:10 PM 931 Views
I don't judge you. I am exactly the same way. - 12/02/2013 01:56:58 PM 1124 Views
I don't give a shit about polyamory. I give a shit about honesty. - 13/02/2013 09:26:56 AM 972 Views
That's why I told him it's not okay, if he is lying to her. *NM* - 13/02/2013 10:00:04 AM 509 Views
That was kind of my take. - 13/02/2013 02:53:05 PM 1186 Views
I get where you're coming from - 12/02/2013 01:57:48 PM 1059 Views
Here is my advice. - 12/02/2013 03:49:55 PM 1237 Views
Well said. - 13/02/2013 03:16:13 PM 954 Views
LOL - 12/02/2013 03:54:46 PM 986 Views
Nice choice of words, there - 12/02/2013 04:04:15 PM 1024 Views
I don't know if I agree that you should talk to her about this. - 12/02/2013 04:30:14 PM 1114 Views
If walking the line is the thrill, then keep walking the line. - 12/02/2013 07:44:59 PM 1130 Views
Seeing your edit, I'm not sure you'll read this.... - 12/02/2013 11:20:46 PM 1027 Views
The thrill of the chase - 13/02/2013 02:38:59 PM 995 Views
Hehe, love that things are pretty much the same around here. *NM* - 14/02/2013 12:29:56 AM 521 Views
I feel sorry for you *NM* - 14/02/2013 01:10:10 AM 572 Views
Best thing you can do is travel around and stay in hostels - 14/02/2013 02:24:50 AM 996 Views
Be open to your wife about how you feel. - 14/02/2013 10:24:13 PM 883 Views

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