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Number one is not an option, it is a looming and growing disaster. Joel Send a noteboard - 13/02/2013 02:57:19 PM
One, continue as you are, and likely eventually succumb to cheating. It'll be fun but you may suffer from guilt, and the situation will undoubtedly implode at some point.

Two, give up the flirting, be faithful purely to your wife.

Three, divorce your wife, because it's possible no matter how perfect you think the two of you are, marriage and monogamy simply aren't for you.

Four, talk this over with your wife, and enter an open relationship, pursue swinging, or something else along such lines. Or if she's completely opposed to it, you have the first three options--only with option one now being exponentially more difficult to carry out.

All of these have their upsides and their downsides, because you're in a shitty situation and therefore have shitty possibilities. My advice, if she's actually "the love of your life" then drop the flirting and keep it within socially acceptable bounds. If, however, on serious reflection you aren't certain that you are as deeply in love with your wife as you first thought, you will likely be better off independent of her. Nothing wrong with being single. It all just depends on what things matter to you most, and where you want to be in 5 or 10 years.

It is getting harder to resist cheating because he keeps chasing; simple as that. If the latter continues, the former will eventually happen just because he is human. Other than that, I agree with your assessment completely, and DK would probably be happier if I had just read it before responding myself. :<img class=' />
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I am on the verge of having an affair Dark Knight - 11/02/2013 11:41:57 PM 1949 Views
Ditch the wife or stop being a prat. TheCrownless - 12/02/2013 12:30:30 AM 1206 Views
Great. Helpful advice Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 12:33:36 AM 1084 Views
What exactly do you want to hear? TheCrownless - 12/02/2013 12:47:06 AM 1069 Views
I don't know, something helpful Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 12:59:23 AM 1142 Views
The telling you to grow up bit wasn't the advice TheCrownless - 12/02/2013 01:09:54 AM 1099 Views
So there is no situation in which advice helps? Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 01:23:21 AM 1138 Views
I didn't say nobody could help you at all TheCrownless - 12/02/2013 01:41:19 AM 1124 Views
You're assuming a moral absolute Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 02:06:13 AM 1307 Views
It is called forsaking all others, and yes there are absolutes. HyogaRott - 13/02/2013 05:58:20 PM 1201 Views
My opinion ... Nate - 12/02/2013 01:21:38 AM 1129 Views
That's not really advice Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 01:28:42 AM 1136 Views
Why is it obvious? Nate - 12/02/2013 01:42:26 AM 1164 Views
That's exactly what I'm looking for Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 02:11:51 AM 1322 Views
I don't know if that's realistic. Nate - 12/02/2013 05:46:48 AM 1078 Views
Get therapy or get a divorce. Your wife deserves better than the person you're being now. *NM* Ghavrel - 12/02/2013 04:00:38 AM 622 Views
Careful you don't fall off that high horse Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 04:53:11 AM 1175 Views
You might try 4chan. Their morals seem more in line with the ones you're currently espousing. *NM* Ghavrel - 13/02/2013 09:29:04 AM 582 Views
What exactly did you want to hear? Dannymac - 12/02/2013 04:31:56 AM 1037 Views
More holier-than-thou judgment. Great thanks. *NM* Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 04:50:36 AM 728 Views
Well, he's a pastor, so he probably is holier-than-thou. *NM* Aeryn - 12/02/2013 07:48:55 PM 597 Views
So what you wanted was a high five? Dannymac - 13/02/2013 04:21:57 PM 1055 Views
role play. *NM* temeraire - 12/02/2013 04:41:07 AM 609 Views
I appreciate something other than judgment. Thank you! Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 04:51:56 AM 1160 Views
i was poly for a decade. maybe that's a thing to consider? opening your marriage for both of you? temeraire - 13/02/2013 05:12:06 AM 1028 Views
If you don't have kids, then just leave the marriage or have an open relationship. *NM* Tom - 12/02/2013 05:19:27 AM 564 Views
You have 4 options A Deathwatch Guard - 12/02/2013 06:03:43 AM 1057 Views
If it isn't about the sex then swinging really won't help *NM* random thoughts - 12/02/2013 12:55:27 PM 581 Views
Number one is not an option, it is a looming and growing disaster. Joel - 13/02/2013 02:57:19 PM 1078 Views
So, you ask for advice, then get upset when you don't like it? MightyYT - 12/02/2013 06:04:07 AM 1075 Views
I'm not sure there's enough context to offer much useful advice, but I'd line up incentives Isaac - 12/02/2013 08:29:41 AM 1157 Views
It's probably the way you phrased it. Rebekah - 12/02/2013 08:41:06 AM 1277 Views
find another passion random thoughts - 12/02/2013 01:01:10 PM 1040 Views
I don't judge you. I am exactly the same way. ironclad - 12/02/2013 01:56:58 PM 1223 Views
I don't give a shit about polyamory. I give a shit about honesty. Ghavrel - 13/02/2013 09:26:56 AM 1073 Views
That's why I told him it's not okay, if he is lying to her. *NM* ironclad - 13/02/2013 10:00:04 AM 584 Views
That was kind of my take. Joel - 13/02/2013 02:53:05 PM 1290 Views
I get where you're coming from Orange - 12/02/2013 01:57:48 PM 1162 Views
Here is my advice. callandor1000 - 12/02/2013 03:49:55 PM 1344 Views
Well said. Joel - 13/02/2013 03:16:13 PM 1061 Views
LOL Dragonsoul - 12/02/2013 03:54:46 PM 1089 Views
Nice choice of words, there ironclad - 12/02/2013 04:04:15 PM 1130 Views
I don't know if I agree that you should talk to her about this. Sareitha Sedai - 12/02/2013 04:30:14 PM 1219 Views
If walking the line is the thrill, then keep walking the line. Aeryn - 12/02/2013 07:44:59 PM 1226 Views
Seeing your edit, I'm not sure you'll read this.... Jeordam - 12/02/2013 11:20:46 PM 1129 Views
The thrill of the chase ßelals Girl - 13/02/2013 02:38:59 PM 1095 Views
Do you want help making a decision, or validation of one already made? Joel - 13/02/2013 02:47:59 PM 1130 Views
Hehe, love that things are pretty much the same around here. *NM* Nefarious - 14/02/2013 12:29:56 AM 593 Views
I feel sorry for you *NM* Yunalesca - 14/02/2013 01:10:10 AM 664 Views
Best thing you can do is travel around and stay in hostels Sports_Gambler - 14/02/2013 02:24:50 AM 1101 Views
Be open to your wife about how you feel. Timthetrolloc - 14/02/2013 10:24:13 PM 989 Views
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