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Number one is not an option, it is a looming and growing disaster. Joel Send a noteboard - 13/02/2013 02:57:19 PM
One, continue as you are, and likely eventually succumb to cheating. It'll be fun but you may suffer from guilt, and the situation will undoubtedly implode at some point.

Two, give up the flirting, be faithful purely to your wife.

Three, divorce your wife, because it's possible no matter how perfect you think the two of you are, marriage and monogamy simply aren't for you.

Four, talk this over with your wife, and enter an open relationship, pursue swinging, or something else along such lines. Or if she's completely opposed to it, you have the first three options--only with option one now being exponentially more difficult to carry out.

All of these have their upsides and their downsides, because you're in a shitty situation and therefore have shitty possibilities. My advice, if she's actually "the love of your life" then drop the flirting and keep it within socially acceptable bounds. If, however, on serious reflection you aren't certain that you are as deeply in love with your wife as you first thought, you will likely be better off independent of her. Nothing wrong with being single. It all just depends on what things matter to you most, and where you want to be in 5 or 10 years.

It is getting harder to resist cheating because he keeps chasing; simple as that. If the latter continues, the former will eventually happen just because he is human. Other than that, I agree with your assessment completely, and DK would probably be happier if I had just read it before responding myself. :<img class=' />
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I am on the verge of having an affair Dark Knight - 11/02/2013 11:41:57 PM 2035 Views
Ditch the wife or stop being a prat. TheCrownless - 12/02/2013 12:30:30 AM 1299 Views
Great. Helpful advice Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 12:33:36 AM 1177 Views
What exactly do you want to hear? TheCrownless - 12/02/2013 12:47:06 AM 1166 Views
I don't know, something helpful Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 12:59:23 AM 1230 Views
The telling you to grow up bit wasn't the advice TheCrownless - 12/02/2013 01:09:54 AM 1184 Views
So there is no situation in which advice helps? Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 01:23:21 AM 1212 Views
I didn't say nobody could help you at all TheCrownless - 12/02/2013 01:41:19 AM 1189 Views
You're assuming a moral absolute Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 02:06:13 AM 1381 Views
It is called forsaking all others, and yes there are absolutes. HyogaRott - 13/02/2013 05:58:20 PM 1282 Views
My opinion ... Nate - 12/02/2013 01:21:38 AM 1217 Views
That's not really advice Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 01:28:42 AM 1245 Views
Why is it obvious? Nate - 12/02/2013 01:42:26 AM 1256 Views
That's exactly what I'm looking for Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 02:11:51 AM 1409 Views
I don't know if that's realistic. Nate - 12/02/2013 05:46:48 AM 1168 Views
Get therapy or get a divorce. Your wife deserves better than the person you're being now. *NM* Ghavrel - 12/02/2013 04:00:38 AM 667 Views
Careful you don't fall off that high horse Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 04:53:11 AM 1240 Views
You might try 4chan. Their morals seem more in line with the ones you're currently espousing. *NM* Ghavrel - 13/02/2013 09:29:04 AM 624 Views
What exactly did you want to hear? Dannymac - 12/02/2013 04:31:56 AM 1112 Views
More holier-than-thou judgment. Great thanks. *NM* Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 04:50:36 AM 779 Views
Well, he's a pastor, so he probably is holier-than-thou. *NM* Aeryn - 12/02/2013 07:48:55 PM 633 Views
So what you wanted was a high five? Dannymac - 13/02/2013 04:21:57 PM 1132 Views
role play. *NM* temeraire - 12/02/2013 04:41:07 AM 653 Views
I appreciate something other than judgment. Thank you! Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 04:51:56 AM 1241 Views
i was poly for a decade. maybe that's a thing to consider? opening your marriage for both of you? temeraire - 13/02/2013 05:12:06 AM 1091 Views
If you don't have kids, then just leave the marriage or have an open relationship. *NM* Tom - 12/02/2013 05:19:27 AM 601 Views
You have 4 options A Deathwatch Guard - 12/02/2013 06:03:43 AM 1168 Views
If it isn't about the sex then swinging really won't help *NM* random thoughts - 12/02/2013 12:55:27 PM 621 Views
Number one is not an option, it is a looming and growing disaster. Joel - 13/02/2013 02:57:19 PM 1161 Views
So, you ask for advice, then get upset when you don't like it? MightyYT - 12/02/2013 06:04:07 AM 1169 Views
I'm not sure there's enough context to offer much useful advice, but I'd line up incentives Isaac - 12/02/2013 08:29:41 AM 1236 Views
It's probably the way you phrased it. Rebekah - 12/02/2013 08:41:06 AM 1364 Views
find another passion random thoughts - 12/02/2013 01:01:10 PM 1110 Views
I don't judge you. I am exactly the same way. ironclad - 12/02/2013 01:56:58 PM 1299 Views
I don't give a shit about polyamory. I give a shit about honesty. Ghavrel - 13/02/2013 09:26:56 AM 1156 Views
That's why I told him it's not okay, if he is lying to her. *NM* ironclad - 13/02/2013 10:00:04 AM 623 Views
That was kind of my take. Joel - 13/02/2013 02:53:05 PM 1348 Views
I get where you're coming from Orange - 12/02/2013 01:57:48 PM 1227 Views
Here is my advice. callandor1000 - 12/02/2013 03:49:55 PM 1432 Views
Well said. Joel - 13/02/2013 03:16:13 PM 1143 Views
LOL Dragonsoul - 12/02/2013 03:54:46 PM 1156 Views
Nice choice of words, there ironclad - 12/02/2013 04:04:15 PM 1209 Views
I don't know if I agree that you should talk to her about this. Sareitha Sedai - 12/02/2013 04:30:14 PM 1301 Views
If walking the line is the thrill, then keep walking the line. Aeryn - 12/02/2013 07:44:59 PM 1328 Views
Seeing your edit, I'm not sure you'll read this.... Jeordam - 12/02/2013 11:20:46 PM 1209 Views
The thrill of the chase ßelals Girl - 13/02/2013 02:38:59 PM 1162 Views
Do you want help making a decision, or validation of one already made? Joel - 13/02/2013 02:47:59 PM 1206 Views
Hehe, love that things are pretty much the same around here. *NM* Nefarious - 14/02/2013 12:29:56 AM 631 Views
I feel sorry for you *NM* Yunalesca - 14/02/2013 01:10:10 AM 705 Views
Best thing you can do is travel around and stay in hostels Sports_Gambler - 14/02/2013 02:24:50 AM 1187 Views
Be open to your wife about how you feel. Timthetrolloc - 14/02/2013 10:24:13 PM 1068 Views
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