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Hehe, love that things are pretty much the same around here. *NM* Nefarious Send a noteboard - 14/02/2013 12:29:56 AM
To me, there is nothing more exciting in this life than the thrill of the hunt. That's what I always loved about dating. The new experience, the excitement in getting the woman to like you. When I'm in the middle of flirting, my heart is pounding rapidly. The look in her eyes, the calculated touch of my hand against hers...

I met the love of my life and got married. I am completely and utterly satisfied with my life. I love my wife dearly. But I can't escape the allure of the forbidden romance. I still flirt like crazy. I eagerly await my next chance to entice a woman into thinking bad thoughts about me. There is no greater high for me than this chase. It occupies my waking mind constantly. I'm always checking out the women at work, thinking of ways to integrate myself into their lives. Break down their barriers slowly.

I've come close to cheating twice. Both times I backed out because I got cold feet. I love my wife too much to risk losing her. But I just can't stop directly or indirectly pursuing women. And it's not even about sex. It's all the moments that lead up to sex. The women I flirt with are aware that I'm married. Most of them are too. But I form friendships with beautiful women, or women with nice breasts or a nice butt, basically whatever attracted me to them. In time, they tell me intimate details about their lives. Those are the moments I savor. To get a woman to that point, where it becomes inappropriate...ambrosia.

I wouldn't have a dilemma if I didn't truly love my wife. She's perfect for me. I want to spend the rest of my life with her. But the best moments in life are the passionate ones, the ones that get your heart pumping. Chasing women does this. Any advice? How should I handle this? I haven't gone totally over the line yet, but I fear that's only a matter of time.

*EDIT* Well my dilemma has been answered! Just get divorced or stop flirting. I can't believe I never thought of that! I don't know why I tried posting this here. I suffered temporary insanity and forgot how most people here are self-righteous assholes. I didn't post this to receive your moral lectures. Like you bastards are any cleaner. If I knew you in real life, I bet I could dig up some nasty shit on each of you. I'm done with this poor excuse for wotmania.
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I am on the verge of having an affair Dark Knight - 11/02/2013 11:41:57 PM 1983 Views
Ditch the wife or stop being a prat. TheCrownless - 12/02/2013 12:30:30 AM 1234 Views
Great. Helpful advice Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 12:33:36 AM 1114 Views
What exactly do you want to hear? TheCrownless - 12/02/2013 12:47:06 AM 1099 Views
I don't know, something helpful Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 12:59:23 AM 1169 Views
The telling you to grow up bit wasn't the advice TheCrownless - 12/02/2013 01:09:54 AM 1126 Views
So there is no situation in which advice helps? Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 01:23:21 AM 1167 Views
I didn't say nobody could help you at all TheCrownless - 12/02/2013 01:41:19 AM 1153 Views
You're assuming a moral absolute Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 02:06:13 AM 1339 Views
It is called forsaking all others, and yes there are absolutes. HyogaRott - 13/02/2013 05:58:20 PM 1232 Views
My opinion ... Nate - 12/02/2013 01:21:38 AM 1163 Views
That's not really advice Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 01:28:42 AM 1171 Views
Why is it obvious? Nate - 12/02/2013 01:42:26 AM 1195 Views
That's exactly what I'm looking for Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 02:11:51 AM 1354 Views
I don't know if that's realistic. Nate - 12/02/2013 05:46:48 AM 1101 Views
Get therapy or get a divorce. Your wife deserves better than the person you're being now. *NM* Ghavrel - 12/02/2013 04:00:38 AM 639 Views
Careful you don't fall off that high horse Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 04:53:11 AM 1209 Views
You might try 4chan. Their morals seem more in line with the ones you're currently espousing. *NM* Ghavrel - 13/02/2013 09:29:04 AM 602 Views
What exactly did you want to hear? Dannymac - 12/02/2013 04:31:56 AM 1070 Views
More holier-than-thou judgment. Great thanks. *NM* Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 04:50:36 AM 752 Views
Well, he's a pastor, so he probably is holier-than-thou. *NM* Aeryn - 12/02/2013 07:48:55 PM 610 Views
So what you wanted was a high five? Dannymac - 13/02/2013 04:21:57 PM 1087 Views
role play. *NM* temeraire - 12/02/2013 04:41:07 AM 619 Views
I appreciate something other than judgment. Thank you! Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 04:51:56 AM 1194 Views
i was poly for a decade. maybe that's a thing to consider? opening your marriage for both of you? temeraire - 13/02/2013 05:12:06 AM 1056 Views
If you don't have kids, then just leave the marriage or have an open relationship. *NM* Tom - 12/02/2013 05:19:27 AM 579 Views
You have 4 options A Deathwatch Guard - 12/02/2013 06:03:43 AM 1092 Views
If it isn't about the sex then swinging really won't help *NM* random thoughts - 12/02/2013 12:55:27 PM 595 Views
Number one is not an option, it is a looming and growing disaster. Joel - 13/02/2013 02:57:19 PM 1109 Views
So, you ask for advice, then get upset when you don't like it? MightyYT - 12/02/2013 06:04:07 AM 1111 Views
I'm not sure there's enough context to offer much useful advice, but I'd line up incentives Isaac - 12/02/2013 08:29:41 AM 1182 Views
It's probably the way you phrased it. Rebekah - 12/02/2013 08:41:06 AM 1315 Views
find another passion random thoughts - 12/02/2013 01:01:10 PM 1075 Views
I don't judge you. I am exactly the same way. ironclad - 12/02/2013 01:56:58 PM 1251 Views
I don't give a shit about polyamory. I give a shit about honesty. Ghavrel - 13/02/2013 09:26:56 AM 1108 Views
That's why I told him it's not okay, if he is lying to her. *NM* ironclad - 13/02/2013 10:00:04 AM 599 Views
That was kind of my take. Joel - 13/02/2013 02:53:05 PM 1313 Views
I get where you're coming from Orange - 12/02/2013 01:57:48 PM 1191 Views
Here is my advice. callandor1000 - 12/02/2013 03:49:55 PM 1372 Views
Well said. Joel - 13/02/2013 03:16:13 PM 1095 Views
LOL Dragonsoul - 12/02/2013 03:54:46 PM 1114 Views
Nice choice of words, there ironclad - 12/02/2013 04:04:15 PM 1161 Views
I don't know if I agree that you should talk to her about this. Sareitha Sedai - 12/02/2013 04:30:14 PM 1239 Views
If walking the line is the thrill, then keep walking the line. Aeryn - 12/02/2013 07:44:59 PM 1268 Views
Seeing your edit, I'm not sure you'll read this.... Jeordam - 12/02/2013 11:20:46 PM 1163 Views
The thrill of the chase ßelals Girl - 13/02/2013 02:38:59 PM 1126 Views
Do you want help making a decision, or validation of one already made? Joel - 13/02/2013 02:47:59 PM 1157 Views
Hehe, love that things are pretty much the same around here. *NM* Nefarious - 14/02/2013 12:29:56 AM 615 Views
I feel sorry for you *NM* Yunalesca - 14/02/2013 01:10:10 AM 678 Views
Best thing you can do is travel around and stay in hostels Sports_Gambler - 14/02/2013 02:24:50 AM 1134 Views
Be open to your wife about how you feel. Timthetrolloc - 14/02/2013 10:24:13 PM 1019 Views
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