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I may have lost a friend over same sex marriage Aisha Send a noteboard - 17/01/2010 08:03:26 AM
I have a friend, she is an older lady, very southern evangelical Christian. She has very firm beliefs that she is not afraid to proclaim out loud. She once told me that she believes I should turn to Christ if I want to save my soul, and that I wont go to heaven in her eyes even if I am a nice person because I dont except Jesus as my savior and what not. Thats fine. Every religion pretty much believes everyone else is going to hell so its all good.

About 2 years ago I moved from TX to the East coast and I have come across more gay people and more "liberal minded" folks and i have come to want gay marriage to be as legal as straight marriage. I am a Muslim and my religion just like Christianity and Judaism says that homosexuality is an abomination and a sin...
I really dont care if people are gay, this is America. I cant force my religious views on the 300 million people in this country and I dont except them to force their views on me.

If a church says they will never allow gay marriages to be officiated by their clergy, more power to them, If another Church says they will perform gay marriages, then good for them, I could care less.

But If i go to city hall and get a marriage license to marry a man and then divorce him and marry 50 more men one at a time after divorcing the previous husband, why cant a gay man go to city hall anywhere in America and just marry another guy. It is a piece of paper. A marriage license/contract is a piece of paper that has power behind it only because the government in the past has decided this piece of paper means such and such.

Not allowing gay marriage is basically shoving a certain religion or ideology down our throats. If being a himosexual and having homosexual sex, and living in the same house with your homosexual partner like any other married couple is not ILLEGAL then why cant we legalize gay marriage. Its a piece of fu@king paper.

My friend was arguing that if she supports gay marriage and if the government passes a federal law for gay marriage, then the govt is condoning and spreading homosexuality and saying it is ok to be gay. I pointed out that not allowing gay marriage will not stop people from being gay! And once again, the govt never said its not ok to be gay, because homosexuality is not illegal! When you say you are against gay marriege you are against a piece of paper that is filed away in city hall that says you are married. I had a court marriage and I had a religious marriage in a mosque. I didnt consider myself married till I had the religious ceremony, the city hall marriage to me is just another piece of paper. Ihave a gay friend who is a very devout Christian, this guy doesnt miss a sunday service, he goes to a church that accepts gays, so If california would legalize gay marriage he could go get his little court room marriage and then have a wedding at his church if eh wanted and that is his business, not mine or anyone elses.

So why cant 2 men go to city hall and get married? I dont know, and I dont think I will even understand why people are sooo goddamn against it.

So yeah my friend walked away from our conversation when she couldnt get me to renounce what I said and she thinks I have been brainwashes by democrats and liberals in CT.
Aisha - formerly known as randschicka
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I may have lost a friend over same sex marriage - 17/01/2010 08:03:26 AM 1655 Views
the problem with your friend is the "southern evangelical christian" part - 17/01/2010 09:07:02 AM 967 Views
They believe gay marriage is ongoing unrepentant sin. - 17/01/2010 12:04:58 PM 978 Views
God your a moron. - 17/01/2010 09:10:17 PM 911 Views
be nice - 18/01/2010 06:26:58 AM 842 Views
<shrug> They can believe that all that they like - 18/01/2010 08:07:28 PM 900 Views
And live accordingly. Just like everyone else. - 18/01/2010 11:10:51 PM 874 Views
Re: And live accordingly. Just like everyone else. - 20/01/2010 10:40:36 PM 839 Views
It is, I believe, hardest for the intelligent educated man. - 21/01/2010 10:29:39 AM 1001 Views
You can't use logic in an irrational argument. - 17/01/2010 10:12:11 AM 859 Views
LOL... *NM* - 18/01/2010 05:21:14 AM 483 Views
You and Adam are being equally unconstructive. - 18/01/2010 06:21:45 AM 773 Views
why do you imply "constructive" is in anyway the intent? *NM* - 18/01/2010 06:32:27 AM 375 Views
*shrug* I never stopped believing in lost causes? - 18/01/2010 07:36:04 AM 776 Views
Re: You can't use logic in an irrational argument. - 18/01/2010 06:28:41 AM 953 Views
Always welcome. - 18/01/2010 07:31:27 AM 1013 Views
We finally converted you - 17/01/2010 08:43:25 PM 792 Views
Not much of a friend then. Good ridance to bad friends. *NM* - 17/01/2010 08:51:02 PM 513 Views
I agree. A friend who can't respect differences of opinion is no friend at all. *NM* - 17/01/2010 09:11:33 PM 388 Views
seriously. *NM* - 17/01/2010 10:46:17 PM 332 Views
Only because such sentiment is my pet peeve...condemning exclusivity is hypocritical. *NM* - 19/01/2010 12:37:37 AM 422 Views
yeah no kidding - 18/01/2010 06:30:45 AM 767 Views
It forces other people to accept THEIR ideology that same sex unions are legitimate. - 18/01/2010 01:49:20 AM 960 Views
I would assume, then, that you don't support any government-mandated health care? - 18/01/2010 02:07:40 AM 779 Views
Correct - 18/01/2010 04:29:04 AM 862 Views
Although I disagree with the vast majority of your arguments, - 18/01/2010 08:50:09 AM 851 Views
Thank you. - 20/01/2010 01:47:34 AM 1030 Views
Please tell me you have a source for that quotation. Other than me. - 21/01/2010 12:31:27 PM 906 Views
It's GK Chesterton! What the hell are you going on about? - 27/01/2010 02:41:00 AM 745 Views
Link? - 27/01/2010 09:28:22 AM 888 Views
I can't find a link to the exact quote - 27/01/2010 12:14:19 PM 975 Views
Re: Link? - 27/01/2010 01:38:36 PM 984 Views
Perhaps we should define our terms more precisely. - 15/02/2010 11:28:09 AM 1367 Views
we do not exist in a free market. - 18/01/2010 04:09:37 AM 767 Views
And that's bad. Since when has the correct response to oppression been "accept further oppression"? *NM* - 18/01/2010 04:30:44 AM 382 Views
I am simply pointing out your arguments do not apply to the present economic environment. - 18/01/2010 04:46:04 AM 744 Views
No I am not. - 19/01/2010 10:44:31 PM 860 Views
That's utter nonsense. - 18/01/2010 04:19:57 AM 806 Views
Re: That's utter nonsense. - 18/01/2010 04:41:27 AM 848 Views
civil marriages DO have a purpose. - 18/01/2010 04:49:12 AM 790 Views
Re: civil marriages DO have a purpose. - 19/01/2010 10:47:18 PM 910 Views
Re: That's utter nonsense. - 18/01/2010 07:13:54 AM 801 Views
Re: That's utter nonsense. - 19/01/2010 10:59:45 PM 778 Views
Re: That's utter nonsense. - 18/01/2010 07:15:50 AM 947 Views
Re: That's utter nonsense. - 20/01/2010 01:38:37 AM 711 Views
Are you at all surprised? - 18/01/2010 07:59:30 AM 793 Views
A truly free country means I don't have the freedom to shoot you - 18/01/2010 05:57:44 AM 913 Views
You really said nothing, right there. - 18/01/2010 08:34:33 AM 839 Views
I presume you are equally against the current set up - 18/01/2010 12:31:33 PM 882 Views
He said as much in his response to me above. *NM* - 18/01/2010 09:37:49 PM 321 Views
That's such an amusing argument - 18/01/2010 08:17:15 PM 761 Views
I'm against people with pasta based nicknames on fantasy forums *NM* - 19/01/2010 03:03:31 PM 337 Views
cannoli is a pastry *NM* - 19/01/2010 07:25:04 PM 318 Views
I have no problem with people with pastry based names, just pasta - 21/01/2010 12:28:44 AM 760 Views
I can't help but find it funny - 18/01/2010 12:51:57 PM 748 Views
So... - 18/01/2010 03:39:33 PM 910 Views
I think you missed who was the one to walk out - 18/01/2010 04:11:05 PM 789 Views
you acept your friends with their warts or you don't - 18/01/2010 06:45:13 PM 888 Views
I think you missed who was the one to walk out *NM* - 18/01/2010 08:01:25 PM 284 Views
I don't think it was that clear - 18/01/2010 10:01:32 PM 835 Views
I don't think it is all that clear yet, either - 18/01/2010 10:27:54 PM 831 Views
I wasn't taking sides - 18/01/2010 10:57:39 PM 720 Views

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