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I may have lost a friend over same sex marriage Aisha Send a noteboard - 17/01/2010 08:03:26 AM
I have a friend, she is an older lady, very southern evangelical Christian. She has very firm beliefs that she is not afraid to proclaim out loud. She once told me that she believes I should turn to Christ if I want to save my soul, and that I wont go to heaven in her eyes even if I am a nice person because I dont except Jesus as my savior and what not. Thats fine. Every religion pretty much believes everyone else is going to hell so its all good.

About 2 years ago I moved from TX to the East coast and I have come across more gay people and more "liberal minded" folks and i have come to want gay marriage to be as legal as straight marriage. I am a Muslim and my religion just like Christianity and Judaism says that homosexuality is an abomination and a sin...
I really dont care if people are gay, this is America. I cant force my religious views on the 300 million people in this country and I dont except them to force their views on me.

If a church says they will never allow gay marriages to be officiated by their clergy, more power to them, If another Church says they will perform gay marriages, then good for them, I could care less.

But If i go to city hall and get a marriage license to marry a man and then divorce him and marry 50 more men one at a time after divorcing the previous husband, why cant a gay man go to city hall anywhere in America and just marry another guy. It is a piece of paper. A marriage license/contract is a piece of paper that has power behind it only because the government in the past has decided this piece of paper means such and such.

Not allowing gay marriage is basically shoving a certain religion or ideology down our throats. If being a himosexual and having homosexual sex, and living in the same house with your homosexual partner like any other married couple is not ILLEGAL then why cant we legalize gay marriage. Its a piece of fu@king paper.

My friend was arguing that if she supports gay marriage and if the government passes a federal law for gay marriage, then the govt is condoning and spreading homosexuality and saying it is ok to be gay. I pointed out that not allowing gay marriage will not stop people from being gay! And once again, the govt never said its not ok to be gay, because homosexuality is not illegal! When you say you are against gay marriege you are against a piece of paper that is filed away in city hall that says you are married. I had a court marriage and I had a religious marriage in a mosque. I didnt consider myself married till I had the religious ceremony, the city hall marriage to me is just another piece of paper. Ihave a gay friend who is a very devout Christian, this guy doesnt miss a sunday service, he goes to a church that accepts gays, so If california would legalize gay marriage he could go get his little court room marriage and then have a wedding at his church if eh wanted and that is his business, not mine or anyone elses.

So why cant 2 men go to city hall and get married? I dont know, and I dont think I will even understand why people are sooo goddamn against it.

So yeah my friend walked away from our conversation when she couldnt get me to renounce what I said and she thinks I have been brainwashes by democrats and liberals in CT.
Aisha - formerly known as randschicka
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I may have lost a friend over same sex marriage - 17/01/2010 08:03:26 AM 1691 Views
the problem with your friend is the "southern evangelical christian" part - 17/01/2010 09:07:02 AM 994 Views
They believe gay marriage is ongoing unrepentant sin. - 17/01/2010 12:04:58 PM 1005 Views
God your a moron. - 17/01/2010 09:10:17 PM 940 Views
be nice - 18/01/2010 06:26:58 AM 866 Views
<shrug> They can believe that all that they like - 18/01/2010 08:07:28 PM 948 Views
And live accordingly. Just like everyone else. - 18/01/2010 11:10:51 PM 906 Views
Re: And live accordingly. Just like everyone else. - 20/01/2010 10:40:36 PM 864 Views
It is, I believe, hardest for the intelligent educated man. - 21/01/2010 10:29:39 AM 1026 Views
You can't use logic in an irrational argument. - 17/01/2010 10:12:11 AM 887 Views
LOL... *NM* - 18/01/2010 05:21:14 AM 499 Views
You and Adam are being equally unconstructive. - 18/01/2010 06:21:45 AM 803 Views
why do you imply "constructive" is in anyway the intent? *NM* - 18/01/2010 06:32:27 AM 391 Views
*shrug* I never stopped believing in lost causes? - 18/01/2010 07:36:04 AM 801 Views
Re: You can't use logic in an irrational argument. - 18/01/2010 06:28:41 AM 983 Views
Always welcome. - 18/01/2010 07:31:27 AM 1040 Views
We finally converted you - 17/01/2010 08:43:25 PM 824 Views
Not much of a friend then. Good ridance to bad friends. *NM* - 17/01/2010 08:51:02 PM 529 Views
I agree. A friend who can't respect differences of opinion is no friend at all. *NM* - 17/01/2010 09:11:33 PM 401 Views
seriously. *NM* - 17/01/2010 10:46:17 PM 353 Views
Only because such sentiment is my pet peeve...condemning exclusivity is hypocritical. *NM* - 19/01/2010 12:37:37 AM 447 Views
yeah no kidding - 18/01/2010 06:30:45 AM 802 Views
It forces other people to accept THEIR ideology that same sex unions are legitimate. - 18/01/2010 01:49:20 AM 1003 Views
I would assume, then, that you don't support any government-mandated health care? - 18/01/2010 02:07:40 AM 812 Views
Correct - 18/01/2010 04:29:04 AM 887 Views
Although I disagree with the vast majority of your arguments, - 18/01/2010 08:50:09 AM 878 Views
Thank you. - 20/01/2010 01:47:34 AM 1053 Views
Please tell me you have a source for that quotation. Other than me. - 21/01/2010 12:31:27 PM 936 Views
It's GK Chesterton! What the hell are you going on about? - 27/01/2010 02:41:00 AM 773 Views
Link? - 27/01/2010 09:28:22 AM 909 Views
I can't find a link to the exact quote - 27/01/2010 12:14:19 PM 1003 Views
Re: Link? - 27/01/2010 01:38:36 PM 1008 Views
Perhaps we should define our terms more precisely. - 15/02/2010 11:28:09 AM 1389 Views
we do not exist in a free market. - 18/01/2010 04:09:37 AM 790 Views
And that's bad. Since when has the correct response to oppression been "accept further oppression"? *NM* - 18/01/2010 04:30:44 AM 398 Views
I am simply pointing out your arguments do not apply to the present economic environment. - 18/01/2010 04:46:04 AM 775 Views
No I am not. - 19/01/2010 10:44:31 PM 885 Views
That's utter nonsense. - 18/01/2010 04:19:57 AM 829 Views
Re: That's utter nonsense. - 18/01/2010 04:41:27 AM 871 Views
civil marriages DO have a purpose. - 18/01/2010 04:49:12 AM 817 Views
Re: civil marriages DO have a purpose. - 19/01/2010 10:47:18 PM 954 Views
Re: That's utter nonsense. - 18/01/2010 07:13:54 AM 827 Views
Re: That's utter nonsense. - 19/01/2010 10:59:45 PM 803 Views
Re: That's utter nonsense. - 18/01/2010 07:15:50 AM 971 Views
Re: That's utter nonsense. - 20/01/2010 01:38:37 AM 739 Views
Are you at all surprised? - 18/01/2010 07:59:30 AM 837 Views
A truly free country means I don't have the freedom to shoot you - 18/01/2010 05:57:44 AM 946 Views
You really said nothing, right there. - 18/01/2010 08:34:33 AM 871 Views
I presume you are equally against the current set up - 18/01/2010 12:31:33 PM 914 Views
He said as much in his response to me above. *NM* - 18/01/2010 09:37:49 PM 339 Views
That's such an amusing argument - 18/01/2010 08:17:15 PM 798 Views
I'm against people with pasta based nicknames on fantasy forums *NM* - 19/01/2010 03:03:31 PM 355 Views
cannoli is a pastry *NM* - 19/01/2010 07:25:04 PM 336 Views
I have no problem with people with pastry based names, just pasta - 21/01/2010 12:28:44 AM 793 Views
I can't help but find it funny - 18/01/2010 12:51:57 PM 783 Views
So... - 18/01/2010 03:39:33 PM 940 Views
I think you missed who was the one to walk out - 18/01/2010 04:11:05 PM 816 Views
you acept your friends with their warts or you don't - 18/01/2010 06:45:13 PM 915 Views
I think you missed who was the one to walk out *NM* - 18/01/2010 08:01:25 PM 299 Views
I don't think it was that clear - 18/01/2010 10:01:32 PM 856 Views
I don't think it is all that clear yet, either - 18/01/2010 10:27:54 PM 860 Views
I wasn't taking sides - 18/01/2010 10:57:39 PM 762 Views

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