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You are missing the point. Camilla Send a noteboard - 18/08/2012 11:11:33 PM
And even with societal differences notwithstanding, many women (including my wife) have communicated to me times in which they were torn on whether they wanted to have sex with someone or not. Even a torn "yes" is still a yes. There is a notable difference between "coerced consent" (and what is that, anyway? If you define it as some sort of extortion, then certainly that is terrible, but if you define it as seduction, then I don't know what we're arguing about here) and rape.

R Kelly said it best when he said "My mind's telling me no, but my body...my body's telling me yes." I didn't read Dany's initial scene with Drogo as rape at all, but as a situation where she wished her life had been different and yet within the circumstances DECIDED - by saying yes and moving his hand - that this was going to happen.

Rape is possibly the single most heinous crime in existence, since it is such a fundamental betrayal of the human right to Self. There's no discussion there. This, however, was not rape.


Nobody is arguing that she does not say yes at that point. The arguemnt is that she is 13 and therefore not in a position to give consent, and that it is therefore especially problematic that Martin emphasises the consent to such an extent.
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Fascinating. - 13/08/2012 11:40:22 PM 2889 Views
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Mainly the names. - 17/08/2012 12:07:21 AM 2605 Views
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When does he use rape in an erotic manner? - 14/08/2012 05:48:59 AM 2570 Views
like all the time. - 14/09/2012 04:45:42 PM 2659 Views
Camilla is indeed a she. - 14/08/2012 06:18:58 AM 2605 Views
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Currently kicking myself - 15/08/2012 06:43:36 AM 2877 Views
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what a great review. you echo my thoughts quite a bit... - 15/08/2012 01:21:38 AM 2520 Views
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Se noteboard. *NM* - 16/08/2012 06:29:39 AM 1345 Views
Game, set, and match *NM* - 18/08/2012 03:50:38 PM 1313 Views
I think the TV series handles the problematic Dany/Drogo relationship better - 17/08/2012 12:20:16 AM 2664 Views
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A perpetrator-less crime then. - 17/08/2012 07:26:26 PM 2633 Views
Exactly! I'm on board, Cannoli. - 18/08/2012 07:45:56 PM 2488 Views
You are missing the point. - 18/08/2012 11:11:33 PM 2744 Views
Re: You are missing the point. - 19/08/2012 01:25:30 PM 2689 Views
Re: You are missing the point. - 19/08/2012 01:40:11 PM 2763 Views
So, you're saying that Juliet was raped by Romeo??? - 21/08/2012 05:24:56 PM 2695 Views
The later books do add more context and change some of this - 19/08/2012 12:08:49 AM 2550 Views
Re: The later books do add more context and change some of this - 19/08/2012 07:27:59 AM 2675 Views
That makes sense - 19/08/2012 02:35:36 PM 2295 Views
Jesus Christ another fucking thread about rape and fantasy. - 19/08/2012 01:47:43 AM 1574 Views
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The interesting part is... - 28/08/2012 01:39:49 AM 2459 Views
That is the best written and most insightful review of that book I have read - 01/09/2012 05:38:00 PM 2536 Views
i'm rereading the series now and yeah there is a LOT of rape - 14/09/2012 04:38:27 PM 3173 Views

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