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Oh yes... I'm of course not sure. I can be way off base :-) Let's hope I am. Helene Send a noteboard - 19/04/2011 06:55:13 PM
The divorce where the guy doesn't know what hit him....that's the sad part. Divorce (in my opinion) is typically a sad event. However, the fact that she asked him says that she has a hope that he will respond to her.

~Jeordam


I think that it's both party's responsibility to keep each other up to date on how they feel about certain things. I get the impression that he drowns out her emotional arguments with cold logic. But that doesn't relieve her from the ability to make it clear to him that his behavior is pushing her away, if it is in fact pushing her away.
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Relationship - positive development or signs of eventual break down? Helene - 19/04/2011 08:48:26 AM 2247 Views
Helene, I want to give you an answer but... Urza - 19/04/2011 08:58:45 AM 1353 Views
Fair enough Helene - 19/04/2011 10:01:51 AM 1311 Views
Not all inlaws are bad, you know, I prefer some of my inlaws to my own family. *NM* Macharius - 19/04/2011 01:56:03 PM 681 Views
inlaws are not always bad random thoughts - 19/04/2011 02:10:18 PM 1290 Views
I spend way more time with my in-laws than with my own family. Sareitha Sedai - 19/04/2011 02:17:41 PM 1263 Views
I'm like this with my future in-laws too. *NM* Clover - 19/04/2011 04:47:05 PM 653 Views
I think they are right ironclad - 19/04/2011 10:20:39 AM 1481 Views
I see your point Helene - 19/04/2011 10:42:51 AM 1456 Views
Re: I think they are right Macharius - 19/04/2011 01:59:57 PM 1350 Views
I think that's an unfair assumption. Sareitha Sedai - 19/04/2011 02:16:54 PM 1249 Views
What he said about his wife's mother Helene - 19/04/2011 02:59:32 PM 1401 Views
Ew. I would have a problem with that too. Something about that attitude makes me dig in my heels. Tashmere - 20/04/2011 01:37:38 AM 1152 Views
No offense... ironclad - 19/04/2011 02:35:53 PM 1393 Views
yes but have you found such a thing? random thoughts - 19/04/2011 03:05:35 PM 1325 Views
For now I have *NM* ironclad - 19/04/2011 03:08:17 PM 679 Views
how long has it been? *NM* random thoughts - 19/04/2011 03:16:32 PM 676 Views
Don't try to corrupt me with your long term pessimism ironclad - 19/04/2011 03:34:39 PM 1256 Views
sadly I seem attracted to the crazies *NM* random thoughts - 19/04/2011 04:08:14 PM 640 Views
Yes. But it didn't start out like that. Took years to chip away all our rough edges. Tashmere - 20/04/2011 01:40:29 AM 1350 Views
Could be either snoopcester - 19/04/2011 10:30:50 AM 1380 Views
True enough... Helene - 19/04/2011 10:44:28 AM 1343 Views
My opinion is the latter. Macharius - 19/04/2011 01:55:00 PM 1354 Views
He definitely has a point about realistic expectations Sareitha Sedai - 19/04/2011 01:56:49 PM 1347 Views
Re: He definitely has a point about realistic expectations Macharius - 19/04/2011 02:07:34 PM 1296 Views
Re: He definitely has a point about realistic expectations snoopcester - 19/04/2011 02:13:25 PM 1430 Views
I should have read this first. Sareitha Sedai - 19/04/2011 02:25:16 PM 1353 Views
Re: He definitely has a point about realistic expectations Sareitha Sedai - 19/04/2011 02:23:14 PM 1342 Views
You don't strike me as the "screeching-howler-monkey" type to begin with. *NM* Macharius - 19/04/2011 03:33:41 PM 653 Views
I love just about everything about you Sareitha. Good answers all. *NM* Tashmere - 20/04/2011 01:26:34 AM 642 Views
I translated "I will think about it" as a secret but obvious code for. "I don't really want to but Tashmere - 20/04/2011 01:34:36 AM 1438 Views
that's what I would have meant if I said "I'll think about it" *NM* LadyLorraine - 20/04/2011 02:00:33 AM 626 Views
The fact that you are referring to a fiancé and comparing it to wife says a lot random thoughts - 19/04/2011 02:09:27 PM 1457 Views
To be fair, me and my fiance have been together for about as long as they have Helene - 19/04/2011 02:57:03 PM 1265 Views
I don't know about everyone but things changed when we got married random thoughts - 19/04/2011 03:16:11 PM 1331 Views
How did things change? Helene - 19/04/2011 04:14:56 PM 1350 Views
Like I said I can only speak for myself random thoughts - 19/04/2011 04:54:04 PM 1334 Views
There's already a 10 year old in the picture for us Helene - 19/04/2011 06:52:44 PM 1324 Views
My husband and I don't understand why people say this. rebelaessedai - 20/04/2011 01:03:31 AM 1451 Views
I did say I was only speaking for myself random thoughts - 20/04/2011 01:58:45 PM 1367 Views
I know. rebelaessedai - 20/04/2011 09:01:11 PM 1558 Views
Sorry for some reason I thought you had just got married. random thoughts - 20/04/2011 09:52:24 PM 1790 Views
Good luck to them! *NM* rebelaessedai - 22/04/2011 04:25:38 AM 661 Views
Re: The fact that you are referring to a fiancé and comparing it to wife says a lot Tihs Tnuc - 19/04/2011 04:34:34 PM 1228 Views
From the information that you have presented... Jeordam - 19/04/2011 03:50:19 PM 1482 Views
I am in agreement with you, and I'm not particularly Christian. Helene - 19/04/2011 04:11:57 PM 1273 Views
Which is sad (not the agreement, but their potential future) Jeordam - 19/04/2011 06:29:47 PM 1328 Views
Oh yes... I'm of course not sure. I can be way off base :-) Let's hope I am. Helene - 19/04/2011 06:55:13 PM 1316 Views
Could go either way. Dannymac - 19/04/2011 04:36:02 PM 1281 Views
I get the impression that it's more about her forming toward him than vice versa Helene - 19/04/2011 06:56:37 PM 1297 Views
Giving up is one thing, growing past is another. Dannymac - 19/04/2011 10:00:55 PM 1259 Views
Oh, to be fair, he's the friend and she's the wife Helene - 20/04/2011 08:43:12 AM 1199 Views
I don't necessarily think it will end in a breakup or divorce. Clover - 19/04/2011 04:44:11 PM 1270 Views
I think you are 100% right about having a good realtionship with your spouse's family random thoughts - 19/04/2011 05:07:12 PM 1294 Views
I think this is about priorities. rebelaessedai - 20/04/2011 01:07:20 AM 1452 Views
Our priorities may shift over time, too. We're still very young and more tied to our families. Clover - 20/04/2011 03:09:54 AM 1267 Views
Even when younger, I was independent. rebelaessedai - 20/04/2011 05:29:59 AM 1215 Views
*nods* Clover - 20/04/2011 06:25:29 AM 1340 Views
rebelaessedai - 22/04/2011 04:29:32 AM 1530 Views
Not the former for sure, and maybe not the latter. Palatine - 19/04/2011 05:55:03 PM 1337 Views
I think it's impossible for me to judge their future status without knowing more about them LadyLorraine - 19/04/2011 07:22:32 PM 1301 Views
Can't tell. nossy - 19/04/2011 10:04:27 PM 1271 Views
I'm with the 'can't tell' crowd. Antigone - 19/04/2011 11:37:17 PM 1691 Views
hell, or she could just not care too much at all LadyLorraine - 19/04/2011 11:43:21 PM 1274 Views
What you said in the original question wouldn't neccessarily mean much to me either way. Tashmere - 20/04/2011 01:56:55 AM 1291 Views
It's not all out "she's worthless", it's more like "she's a bit silly with all her wishes" Helene - 20/04/2011 08:46:49 AM 1258 Views
That would still be a deal breaker for me. Tashmere - 20/04/2011 11:49:09 PM 1261 Views
I'm leaning more towards your interpretation. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 20/04/2011 02:15:22 AM 624 Views
I don't know. *NM* (I feel bad for the 20 people who viewed this message- my apologies) Vivien - 20/04/2011 04:36:13 AM 1328 Views
I'm with you on this. *NM* Camilla - 20/04/2011 10:00:41 AM 698 Views
*sigh* Yunalesca - 20/04/2011 09:25:02 PM 1399 Views
Re: I mean, it's not good. *NM* Gaps - 20/04/2011 11:50:21 PM 609 Views
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