I can see how I have been confusing, because I see it as a matter of checks and balances. Nobody is taking away her real right to make comments. She is the only person who can decide if the dream is worth obeying their guidelines for this short period in her life. You give a ton of weight to the fact that she has the "right" to her dream, but I do think there are fair requirements from those who spend their lives fighting to make sure it means something (and to keep it a reality).