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I am on the verge of having an affair Dark Knight Send a noteboard - 11/02/2013 11:41:57 PM
To me, there is nothing more exciting in this life than the thrill of the hunt. That's what I always loved about dating. The new experience, the excitement in getting the woman to like you. When I'm in the middle of flirting, my heart is pounding rapidly. The look in her eyes, the calculated touch of my hand against hers...

I met the love of my life and got married. I am completely and utterly satisfied with my life. I love my wife dearly. But I can't escape the allure of the forbidden romance. I still flirt like crazy. I eagerly await my next chance to entice a woman into thinking bad thoughts about me. There is no greater high for me than this chase. It occupies my waking mind constantly. I'm always checking out the women at work, thinking of ways to integrate myself into their lives. Break down their barriers slowly.

I've come close to cheating twice. Both times I backed out because I got cold feet. I love my wife too much to risk losing her. But I just can't stop directly or indirectly pursuing women. And it's not even about sex. It's all the moments that lead up to sex. The women I flirt with are aware that I'm married. Most of them are too. But I form friendships with beautiful women, or women with nice breasts or a nice butt, basically whatever attracted me to them. In time, they tell me intimate details about their lives. Those are the moments I savor. To get a woman to that point, where it becomes inappropriate...ambrosia.

I wouldn't have a dilemma if I didn't truly love my wife. She's perfect for me. I want to spend the rest of my life with her. But the best moments in life are the passionate ones, the ones that get your heart pumping. Chasing women does this. Any advice? How should I handle this? I haven't gone totally over the line yet, but I fear that's only a matter of time.

*EDIT* Well my dilemma has been answered! Just get divorced or stop flirting. I can't believe I never thought of that! I don't know why I tried posting this here. I suffered temporary insanity and forgot how most people here are self-righteous assholes. I didn't post this to receive your moral lectures. Like you bastards are any cleaner. If I knew you in real life, I bet I could dig up some nasty shit on each of you. I'm done with this poor excuse for wotmania.
Formerly Mat Bloody Cauthon on Wotmania, blessed be its name
This message last edited by Dark Knight on 12/02/2013 at 05:01:49 AM
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I am on the verge of having an affair Dark Knight - 11/02/2013 11:41:57 PM 1684 Views
Ditch the wife or stop being a prat. TheCrownless - 12/02/2013 12:30:30 AM 947 Views
Great. Helpful advice Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 12:33:36 AM 819 Views
What exactly do you want to hear? TheCrownless - 12/02/2013 12:47:06 AM 802 Views
I don't know, something helpful Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 12:59:23 AM 866 Views
The telling you to grow up bit wasn't the advice TheCrownless - 12/02/2013 01:09:54 AM 825 Views
So there is no situation in which advice helps? Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 01:23:21 AM 867 Views
I didn't say nobody could help you at all TheCrownless - 12/02/2013 01:41:19 AM 835 Views
You're assuming a moral absolute Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 02:06:13 AM 1027 Views
It is called forsaking all others, and yes there are absolutes. HyogaRott - 13/02/2013 05:58:20 PM 938 Views
My opinion ... Nate - 12/02/2013 01:21:38 AM 873 Views
That's not really advice Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 01:28:42 AM 860 Views
Why is it obvious? Nate - 12/02/2013 01:42:26 AM 883 Views
That's exactly what I'm looking for Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 02:11:51 AM 1058 Views
I don't know if that's realistic. Nate - 12/02/2013 05:46:48 AM 812 Views
Get therapy or get a divorce. Your wife deserves better than the person you're being now. *NM* Ghavrel - 12/02/2013 04:00:38 AM 460 Views
Careful you don't fall off that high horse Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 04:53:11 AM 885 Views
You might try 4chan. Their morals seem more in line with the ones you're currently espousing. *NM* Ghavrel - 13/02/2013 09:29:04 AM 415 Views
What exactly did you want to hear? Dannymac - 12/02/2013 04:31:56 AM 777 Views
More holier-than-thou judgment. Great thanks. *NM* Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 04:50:36 AM 564 Views
Well, he's a pastor, so he probably is holier-than-thou. *NM* Aeryn - 12/02/2013 07:48:55 PM 438 Views
So what you wanted was a high five? Dannymac - 13/02/2013 04:21:57 PM 812 Views
role play. *NM* temeraire - 12/02/2013 04:41:07 AM 457 Views
I appreciate something other than judgment. Thank you! Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 04:51:56 AM 877 Views
i was poly for a decade. maybe that's a thing to consider? opening your marriage for both of you? temeraire - 13/02/2013 05:12:06 AM 774 Views
If you don't have kids, then just leave the marriage or have an open relationship. *NM* Tom - 12/02/2013 05:19:27 AM 413 Views
You have 4 options A Deathwatch Guard - 12/02/2013 06:03:43 AM 799 Views
If it isn't about the sex then swinging really won't help *NM* random thoughts - 12/02/2013 12:55:27 PM 417 Views
Number one is not an option, it is a looming and growing disaster. Joel - 13/02/2013 02:57:19 PM 815 Views
So, you ask for advice, then get upset when you don't like it? MightyYT - 12/02/2013 06:04:07 AM 811 Views
I'm not sure there's enough context to offer much useful advice, but I'd line up incentives Isaac - 12/02/2013 08:29:41 AM 887 Views
It's probably the way you phrased it. Rebekah - 12/02/2013 08:41:06 AM 1019 Views
find another passion random thoughts - 12/02/2013 01:01:10 PM 779 Views
I don't judge you. I am exactly the same way. ironclad - 12/02/2013 01:56:58 PM 962 Views
I don't give a shit about polyamory. I give a shit about honesty. Ghavrel - 13/02/2013 09:26:56 AM 819 Views
That's why I told him it's not okay, if he is lying to her. *NM* ironclad - 13/02/2013 10:00:04 AM 430 Views
That was kind of my take. Joel - 13/02/2013 02:53:05 PM 1026 Views
I get where you're coming from Orange - 12/02/2013 01:57:48 PM 906 Views
Here is my advice. callandor1000 - 12/02/2013 03:49:55 PM 1074 Views
Well said. Joel - 13/02/2013 03:16:13 PM 798 Views
LOL Dragonsoul - 12/02/2013 03:54:46 PM 832 Views
Nice choice of words, there ironclad - 12/02/2013 04:04:15 PM 854 Views
I don't know if I agree that you should talk to her about this. Sareitha Sedai - 12/02/2013 04:30:14 PM 948 Views
If walking the line is the thrill, then keep walking the line. Aeryn - 12/02/2013 07:44:59 PM 961 Views
Seeing your edit, I'm not sure you'll read this.... Jeordam - 12/02/2013 11:20:46 PM 869 Views
The thrill of the chase ßelals Girl - 13/02/2013 02:38:59 PM 840 Views
Do you want help making a decision, or validation of one already made? Joel - 13/02/2013 02:47:59 PM 870 Views
Hehe, love that things are pretty much the same around here. *NM* Nefarious - 14/02/2013 12:29:56 AM 437 Views
I feel sorry for you *NM* Yunalesca - 14/02/2013 01:10:10 AM 487 Views
Best thing you can do is travel around and stay in hostels Sports_Gambler - 14/02/2013 02:24:50 AM 841 Views
Be open to your wife about how you feel. Timthetrolloc - 14/02/2013 10:24:13 PM 722 Views
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