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The thrill of the chase ßelals Girl Send a noteboard - 13/02/2013 02:38:59 PM
If nothing else, you deserve some credit for recognizing that that does it for you and wanting to know how you can keep from cheating despite those urges.

I've heard other people who are like that find ways to keep up the "chase dynamic" within committed relationships so that the chaser's interest is always kept focused on the person they want to be with. Not sure how it's done, but I'm assuming roleplay and such fits into it.

Of course, you have to have a partner who is willing to constantly play the flirt and chase-ee. Not all people can do that.

Talk to her about this problem and see if you two can work something out.
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I am on the verge of having an affair Dark Knight - 11/02/2013 11:41:57 PM 2155 Views
Ditch the wife or stop being a prat. TheCrownless - 12/02/2013 12:30:30 AM 1407 Views
Great. Helpful advice Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 12:33:36 AM 1292 Views
What exactly do you want to hear? TheCrownless - 12/02/2013 12:47:06 AM 1285 Views
I don't know, something helpful Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 12:59:23 AM 1347 Views
The telling you to grow up bit wasn't the advice TheCrownless - 12/02/2013 01:09:54 AM 1311 Views
So there is no situation in which advice helps? Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 01:23:21 AM 1325 Views
I didn't say nobody could help you at all TheCrownless - 12/02/2013 01:41:19 AM 1302 Views
You're assuming a moral absolute Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 02:06:13 AM 1525 Views
It is called forsaking all others, and yes there are absolutes. HyogaRott - 13/02/2013 05:58:20 PM 1387 Views
My opinion ... Nate - 12/02/2013 01:21:38 AM 1336 Views
That's not really advice Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 01:28:42 AM 1368 Views
Why is it obvious? Nate - 12/02/2013 01:42:26 AM 1392 Views
That's exactly what I'm looking for Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 02:11:51 AM 1540 Views
I don't know if that's realistic. Nate - 12/02/2013 05:46:48 AM 1290 Views
Get therapy or get a divorce. Your wife deserves better than the person you're being now. *NM* Ghavrel - 12/02/2013 04:00:38 AM 727 Views
Careful you don't fall off that high horse Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 04:53:11 AM 1364 Views
You might try 4chan. Their morals seem more in line with the ones you're currently espousing. *NM* Ghavrel - 13/02/2013 09:29:04 AM 690 Views
What exactly did you want to hear? Dannymac - 12/02/2013 04:31:56 AM 1217 Views
More holier-than-thou judgment. Great thanks. *NM* Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 04:50:36 AM 851 Views
Well, he's a pastor, so he probably is holier-than-thou. *NM* Aeryn - 12/02/2013 07:48:55 PM 682 Views
So what you wanted was a high five? Dannymac - 13/02/2013 04:21:57 PM 1244 Views
role play. *NM* temeraire - 12/02/2013 04:41:07 AM 714 Views
I appreciate something other than judgment. Thank you! Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 04:51:56 AM 1345 Views
i was poly for a decade. maybe that's a thing to consider? opening your marriage for both of you? temeraire - 13/02/2013 05:12:06 AM 1196 Views
If you don't have kids, then just leave the marriage or have an open relationship. *NM* Tom - 12/02/2013 05:19:27 AM 649 Views
You have 4 options A Deathwatch Guard - 12/02/2013 06:03:43 AM 1306 Views
If it isn't about the sex then swinging really won't help *NM* random thoughts - 12/02/2013 12:55:27 PM 678 Views
Number one is not an option, it is a looming and growing disaster. Joel - 13/02/2013 02:57:19 PM 1291 Views
So, you ask for advice, then get upset when you don't like it? MightyYT - 12/02/2013 06:04:07 AM 1303 Views
I'm not sure there's enough context to offer much useful advice, but I'd line up incentives Isaac - 12/02/2013 08:29:41 AM 1349 Views
It's probably the way you phrased it. Rebekah - 12/02/2013 08:41:06 AM 1469 Views
find another passion random thoughts - 12/02/2013 01:01:10 PM 1210 Views
I don't judge you. I am exactly the same way. ironclad - 12/02/2013 01:56:58 PM 1414 Views
I don't give a shit about polyamory. I give a shit about honesty. Ghavrel - 13/02/2013 09:26:56 AM 1265 Views
That's why I told him it's not okay, if he is lying to her. *NM* ironclad - 13/02/2013 10:00:04 AM 684 Views
That was kind of my take. Joel - 13/02/2013 02:53:05 PM 1465 Views
I get where you're coming from Orange - 12/02/2013 01:57:48 PM 1337 Views
Here is my advice. callandor1000 - 12/02/2013 03:49:55 PM 1556 Views
Well said. Joel - 13/02/2013 03:16:13 PM 1275 Views
LOL Dragonsoul - 12/02/2013 03:54:46 PM 1272 Views
Nice choice of words, there ironclad - 12/02/2013 04:04:15 PM 1330 Views
I don't know if I agree that you should talk to her about this. Sareitha Sedai - 12/02/2013 04:30:14 PM 1422 Views
If walking the line is the thrill, then keep walking the line. Aeryn - 12/02/2013 07:44:59 PM 1434 Views
Seeing your edit, I'm not sure you'll read this.... Jeordam - 12/02/2013 11:20:46 PM 1328 Views
The thrill of the chase ßelals Girl - 13/02/2013 02:38:59 PM 1262 Views
Do you want help making a decision, or validation of one already made? Joel - 13/02/2013 02:47:59 PM 1317 Views
Hehe, love that things are pretty much the same around here. *NM* Nefarious - 14/02/2013 12:29:56 AM 674 Views
I feel sorry for you *NM* Yunalesca - 14/02/2013 01:10:10 AM 760 Views
Best thing you can do is travel around and stay in hostels Sports_Gambler - 14/02/2013 02:24:50 AM 1307 Views
Be open to your wife about how you feel. Timthetrolloc - 14/02/2013 10:24:13 PM 1210 Views
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