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Number one is not an option, it is a looming and growing disaster. Joel Send a noteboard - 13/02/2013 02:57:19 PM
One, continue as you are, and likely eventually succumb to cheating. It'll be fun but you may suffer from guilt, and the situation will undoubtedly implode at some point.

Two, give up the flirting, be faithful purely to your wife.

Three, divorce your wife, because it's possible no matter how perfect you think the two of you are, marriage and monogamy simply aren't for you.

Four, talk this over with your wife, and enter an open relationship, pursue swinging, or something else along such lines. Or if she's completely opposed to it, you have the first three options--only with option one now being exponentially more difficult to carry out.

All of these have their upsides and their downsides, because you're in a shitty situation and therefore have shitty possibilities. My advice, if she's actually "the love of your life" then drop the flirting and keep it within socially acceptable bounds. If, however, on serious reflection you aren't certain that you are as deeply in love with your wife as you first thought, you will likely be better off independent of her. Nothing wrong with being single. It all just depends on what things matter to you most, and where you want to be in 5 or 10 years.

It is getting harder to resist cheating because he keeps chasing; simple as that. If the latter continues, the former will eventually happen just because he is human. Other than that, I agree with your assessment completely, and DK would probably be happier if I had just read it before responding myself. :<img class=' />
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I am on the verge of having an affair Dark Knight - 11/02/2013 11:41:57 PM 2203 Views
Ditch the wife or stop being a prat. TheCrownless - 12/02/2013 12:30:30 AM 1453 Views
Great. Helpful advice Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 12:33:36 AM 1338 Views
What exactly do you want to hear? TheCrownless - 12/02/2013 12:47:06 AM 1341 Views
I don't know, something helpful Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 12:59:23 AM 1395 Views
The telling you to grow up bit wasn't the advice TheCrownless - 12/02/2013 01:09:54 AM 1355 Views
So there is no situation in which advice helps? Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 01:23:21 AM 1371 Views
I didn't say nobody could help you at all TheCrownless - 12/02/2013 01:41:19 AM 1351 Views
You're assuming a moral absolute Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 02:06:13 AM 1577 Views
It is called forsaking all others, and yes there are absolutes. HyogaRott - 13/02/2013 05:58:20 PM 1442 Views
My opinion ... Nate - 12/02/2013 01:21:38 AM 1389 Views
That's not really advice Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 01:28:42 AM 1419 Views
Why is it obvious? Nate - 12/02/2013 01:42:26 AM 1437 Views
That's exactly what I'm looking for Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 02:11:51 AM 1602 Views
I don't know if that's realistic. Nate - 12/02/2013 05:46:48 AM 1329 Views
Get therapy or get a divorce. Your wife deserves better than the person you're being now. *NM* Ghavrel - 12/02/2013 04:00:38 AM 776 Views
Careful you don't fall off that high horse Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 04:53:11 AM 1419 Views
You might try 4chan. Their morals seem more in line with the ones you're currently espousing. *NM* Ghavrel - 13/02/2013 09:29:04 AM 716 Views
What exactly did you want to hear? Dannymac - 12/02/2013 04:31:56 AM 1258 Views
More holier-than-thou judgment. Great thanks. *NM* Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 04:50:36 AM 889 Views
Well, he's a pastor, so he probably is holier-than-thou. *NM* Aeryn - 12/02/2013 07:48:55 PM 716 Views
So what you wanted was a high five? Dannymac - 13/02/2013 04:21:57 PM 1291 Views
role play. *NM* temeraire - 12/02/2013 04:41:07 AM 748 Views
I appreciate something other than judgment. Thank you! Dark Knight - 12/02/2013 04:51:56 AM 1391 Views
i was poly for a decade. maybe that's a thing to consider? opening your marriage for both of you? temeraire - 13/02/2013 05:12:06 AM 1251 Views
If you don't have kids, then just leave the marriage or have an open relationship. *NM* Tom - 12/02/2013 05:19:27 AM 681 Views
You have 4 options A Deathwatch Guard - 12/02/2013 06:03:43 AM 1354 Views
If it isn't about the sex then swinging really won't help *NM* random thoughts - 12/02/2013 12:55:27 PM 712 Views
Number one is not an option, it is a looming and growing disaster. Joel - 13/02/2013 02:57:19 PM 1343 Views
So, you ask for advice, then get upset when you don't like it? MightyYT - 12/02/2013 06:04:07 AM 1358 Views
I'm not sure there's enough context to offer much useful advice, but I'd line up incentives Isaac - 12/02/2013 08:29:41 AM 1398 Views
It's probably the way you phrased it. Rebekah - 12/02/2013 08:41:06 AM 1520 Views
find another passion random thoughts - 12/02/2013 01:01:10 PM 1258 Views
I don't judge you. I am exactly the same way. ironclad - 12/02/2013 01:56:58 PM 1458 Views
I don't give a shit about polyamory. I give a shit about honesty. Ghavrel - 13/02/2013 09:26:56 AM 1318 Views
That's why I told him it's not okay, if he is lying to her. *NM* ironclad - 13/02/2013 10:00:04 AM 723 Views
That was kind of my take. Joel - 13/02/2013 02:53:05 PM 1518 Views
I get where you're coming from Orange - 12/02/2013 01:57:48 PM 1394 Views
Here is my advice. callandor1000 - 12/02/2013 03:49:55 PM 1615 Views
Well said. Joel - 13/02/2013 03:16:13 PM 1331 Views
LOL Dragonsoul - 12/02/2013 03:54:46 PM 1320 Views
Nice choice of words, there ironclad - 12/02/2013 04:04:15 PM 1380 Views
I don't know if I agree that you should talk to her about this. Sareitha Sedai - 12/02/2013 04:30:14 PM 1468 Views
If walking the line is the thrill, then keep walking the line. Aeryn - 12/02/2013 07:44:59 PM 1483 Views
Seeing your edit, I'm not sure you'll read this.... Jeordam - 12/02/2013 11:20:46 PM 1395 Views
The thrill of the chase ßelals Girl - 13/02/2013 02:38:59 PM 1301 Views
Do you want help making a decision, or validation of one already made? Joel - 13/02/2013 02:47:59 PM 1367 Views
Hehe, love that things are pretty much the same around here. *NM* Nefarious - 14/02/2013 12:29:56 AM 710 Views
I feel sorry for you *NM* Yunalesca - 14/02/2013 01:10:10 AM 793 Views
Best thing you can do is travel around and stay in hostels Sports_Gambler - 14/02/2013 02:24:50 AM 1358 Views
Be open to your wife about how you feel. Timthetrolloc - 14/02/2013 10:24:13 PM 1269 Views
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