You spoke with such pretentious authority about how words ought to be used, but once people started disagreeing with you it becomes "oh, well, I dislike that word, and a few others too". Where'd that should go?

The fact is, "male" and "female" in ordinary American language do not have the connotations you're ascribing to them. The only people who are agreeing with you are people who have a less than perfect grasp of American colloquial language, while the people here who have been objecting to you are native speakers who grew up with the language.

I'll probably get some flack for this, but frankly, it should be emphasized more. I'm not being a bigot, I am saying the following. Despite the fact that Americans eat cheeseburgers and hate healthcare, American English is in fact a very complex and nuanced language that people ought to respect just a bit more, particularly with issues this subtle. It should be afforded the same respect as Japanese or Attic Greek. Being raised here does matter in some of these liminal cases. Being intelligent, watching movies, and reading books will not help someone on an issue that is this complex. You need to be a native speaker living here.