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My husband and I don't understand why people say this. rebelaessedai Send a noteboard - 20/04/2011 01:03:31 AM
I know everything is different for everybody, but we were married in our hearts the day we met. We just knew. Our expectations have changed, true, but not any differently than they would have if we had been engaged still and not married.

I didn't get the feeling he was talking bad about his spouse, just that he was happy she finally understood this wasn't a thing worth arguing over. You learn what to accept by not sweating the small stuff, I think.

In other news, the top line of my window says "Community Messageboard: I don't know about everyone but things changed when we got married by random thoughts". And that sounds very silly without the comma.
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Helene, I want to give you an answer but... Urza - 19/04/2011 08:58:45 AM 1320 Views
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I spend way more time with my in-laws than with my own family. Sareitha Sedai - 19/04/2011 02:17:41 PM 1218 Views
I'm like this with my future in-laws too. *NM* Clover - 19/04/2011 04:47:05 PM 632 Views
I think they are right ironclad - 19/04/2011 10:20:39 AM 1441 Views
I see your point Helene - 19/04/2011 10:42:51 AM 1416 Views
Re: I think they are right Macharius - 19/04/2011 01:59:57 PM 1292 Views
I think that's an unfair assumption. Sareitha Sedai - 19/04/2011 02:16:54 PM 1200 Views
What he said about his wife's mother Helene - 19/04/2011 02:59:32 PM 1362 Views
Ew. I would have a problem with that too. Something about that attitude makes me dig in my heels. Tashmere - 20/04/2011 01:37:38 AM 1120 Views
No offense... ironclad - 19/04/2011 02:35:53 PM 1352 Views
yes but have you found such a thing? random thoughts - 19/04/2011 03:05:35 PM 1285 Views
For now I have *NM* ironclad - 19/04/2011 03:08:17 PM 652 Views
how long has it been? *NM* random thoughts - 19/04/2011 03:16:32 PM 646 Views
Don't try to corrupt me with your long term pessimism ironclad - 19/04/2011 03:34:39 PM 1219 Views
sadly I seem attracted to the crazies *NM* random thoughts - 19/04/2011 04:08:14 PM 615 Views
Yes. But it didn't start out like that. Took years to chip away all our rough edges. Tashmere - 20/04/2011 01:40:29 AM 1301 Views
Could be either snoopcester - 19/04/2011 10:30:50 AM 1337 Views
True enough... Helene - 19/04/2011 10:44:28 AM 1307 Views
My opinion is the latter. Macharius - 19/04/2011 01:55:00 PM 1307 Views
He definitely has a point about realistic expectations Sareitha Sedai - 19/04/2011 01:56:49 PM 1303 Views
Re: He definitely has a point about realistic expectations Macharius - 19/04/2011 02:07:34 PM 1253 Views
Re: He definitely has a point about realistic expectations snoopcester - 19/04/2011 02:13:25 PM 1384 Views
I should have read this first. Sareitha Sedai - 19/04/2011 02:25:16 PM 1317 Views
Re: He definitely has a point about realistic expectations Sareitha Sedai - 19/04/2011 02:23:14 PM 1290 Views
You don't strike me as the "screeching-howler-monkey" type to begin with. *NM* Macharius - 19/04/2011 03:33:41 PM 630 Views
I love just about everything about you Sareitha. Good answers all. *NM* Tashmere - 20/04/2011 01:26:34 AM 604 Views
I translated "I will think about it" as a secret but obvious code for. "I don't really want to but Tashmere - 20/04/2011 01:34:36 AM 1402 Views
that's what I would have meant if I said "I'll think about it" *NM* LadyLorraine - 20/04/2011 02:00:33 AM 590 Views
The fact that you are referring to a fiancé and comparing it to wife says a lot random thoughts - 19/04/2011 02:09:27 PM 1392 Views
To be fair, me and my fiance have been together for about as long as they have Helene - 19/04/2011 02:57:03 PM 1212 Views
I don't know about everyone but things changed when we got married random thoughts - 19/04/2011 03:16:11 PM 1291 Views
How did things change? Helene - 19/04/2011 04:14:56 PM 1298 Views
Like I said I can only speak for myself random thoughts - 19/04/2011 04:54:04 PM 1291 Views
There's already a 10 year old in the picture for us Helene - 19/04/2011 06:52:44 PM 1269 Views
My husband and I don't understand why people say this. rebelaessedai - 20/04/2011 01:03:31 AM 1396 Views
I did say I was only speaking for myself random thoughts - 20/04/2011 01:58:45 PM 1299 Views
I know. rebelaessedai - 20/04/2011 09:01:11 PM 1505 Views
Sorry for some reason I thought you had just got married. random thoughts - 20/04/2011 09:52:24 PM 1743 Views
Good luck to them! *NM* rebelaessedai - 22/04/2011 04:25:38 AM 623 Views
Re: The fact that you are referring to a fiancé and comparing it to wife says a lot Tihs Tnuc - 19/04/2011 04:34:34 PM 1182 Views
From the information that you have presented... Jeordam - 19/04/2011 03:50:19 PM 1440 Views
I am in agreement with you, and I'm not particularly Christian. Helene - 19/04/2011 04:11:57 PM 1236 Views
Which is sad (not the agreement, but their potential future) Jeordam - 19/04/2011 06:29:47 PM 1293 Views
Oh yes... I'm of course not sure. I can be way off base :-) Let's hope I am. Helene - 19/04/2011 06:55:13 PM 1273 Views
Could go either way. Dannymac - 19/04/2011 04:36:02 PM 1235 Views
I get the impression that it's more about her forming toward him than vice versa Helene - 19/04/2011 06:56:37 PM 1251 Views
Giving up is one thing, growing past is another. Dannymac - 19/04/2011 10:00:55 PM 1219 Views
Oh, to be fair, he's the friend and she's the wife Helene - 20/04/2011 08:43:12 AM 1157 Views
I don't necessarily think it will end in a breakup or divorce. Clover - 19/04/2011 04:44:11 PM 1229 Views
I think you are 100% right about having a good realtionship with your spouse's family random thoughts - 19/04/2011 05:07:12 PM 1249 Views
I think this is about priorities. rebelaessedai - 20/04/2011 01:07:20 AM 1393 Views
Our priorities may shift over time, too. We're still very young and more tied to our families. Clover - 20/04/2011 03:09:54 AM 1222 Views
Even when younger, I was independent. rebelaessedai - 20/04/2011 05:29:59 AM 1177 Views
*nods* Clover - 20/04/2011 06:25:29 AM 1298 Views
rebelaessedai - 22/04/2011 04:29:32 AM 1482 Views
Not the former for sure, and maybe not the latter. Palatine - 19/04/2011 05:55:03 PM 1298 Views
I think it's impossible for me to judge their future status without knowing more about them LadyLorraine - 19/04/2011 07:22:32 PM 1253 Views
Can't tell. nossy - 19/04/2011 10:04:27 PM 1222 Views
I'm with the 'can't tell' crowd. Antigone - 19/04/2011 11:37:17 PM 1650 Views
hell, or she could just not care too much at all LadyLorraine - 19/04/2011 11:43:21 PM 1227 Views
What you said in the original question wouldn't neccessarily mean much to me either way. Tashmere - 20/04/2011 01:56:55 AM 1251 Views
It's not all out "she's worthless", it's more like "she's a bit silly with all her wishes" Helene - 20/04/2011 08:46:49 AM 1218 Views
That would still be a deal breaker for me. Tashmere - 20/04/2011 11:49:09 PM 1219 Views
I'm leaning more towards your interpretation. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 20/04/2011 02:15:22 AM 598 Views
I don't know. *NM* (I feel bad for the 20 people who viewed this message- my apologies) Vivien - 20/04/2011 04:36:13 AM 1284 Views
I'm with you on this. *NM* Camilla - 20/04/2011 10:00:41 AM 656 Views
*sigh* Yunalesca - 20/04/2011 09:25:02 PM 1358 Views
Re: I mean, it's not good. *NM* Gaps - 20/04/2011 11:50:21 PM 582 Views
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