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I know. rebelaessedai Send a noteboard - 20/04/2011 09:01:11 PM
How do you know your attitudes would have been that same if you had just been engaged and not married? Also how long have you been married? Newlyweds are not really the same as old married couples. Every couple is different but I find the idea that being married for a few years without having your relationship change odd;)


We've been married four years this June, so I'm not sure we still qualify as "newlyweds." Our relationship has become more friendly and less passionate, and I think that's the only way in which it's changed... and I think that happens to everyone, married or no. ;)
The only reason I bring it up is because a lot of people have stated that marriage changes your relationship for good; for us, it just involved holding a certificate stating we were legally bound.
Atheism is a religion like abstinence is a sex position. - Bill Maher
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What he said about his wife's mother Helene - 19/04/2011 02:59:32 PM 1427 Views
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For now I have *NM* ironclad - 19/04/2011 03:08:17 PM 691 Views
how long has it been? *NM* random thoughts - 19/04/2011 03:16:32 PM 689 Views
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My opinion is the latter. Macharius - 19/04/2011 01:55:00 PM 1393 Views
He definitely has a point about realistic expectations Sareitha Sedai - 19/04/2011 01:56:49 PM 1377 Views
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I should have read this first. Sareitha Sedai - 19/04/2011 02:25:16 PM 1384 Views
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You don't strike me as the "screeching-howler-monkey" type to begin with. *NM* Macharius - 19/04/2011 03:33:41 PM 667 Views
I love just about everything about you Sareitha. Good answers all. *NM* Tashmere - 20/04/2011 01:26:34 AM 662 Views
I translated "I will think about it" as a secret but obvious code for. "I don't really want to but Tashmere - 20/04/2011 01:34:36 AM 1469 Views
that's what I would have meant if I said "I'll think about it" *NM* LadyLorraine - 20/04/2011 02:00:33 AM 638 Views
The fact that you are referring to a fiancé and comparing it to wife says a lot random thoughts - 19/04/2011 02:09:27 PM 1486 Views
To be fair, me and my fiance have been together for about as long as they have Helene - 19/04/2011 02:57:03 PM 1289 Views
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How did things change? Helene - 19/04/2011 04:14:56 PM 1405 Views
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I did say I was only speaking for myself random thoughts - 20/04/2011 01:58:45 PM 1397 Views
I know. rebelaessedai - 20/04/2011 09:01:11 PM 1600 Views
Sorry for some reason I thought you had just got married. random thoughts - 20/04/2011 09:52:24 PM 1815 Views
Good luck to them! *NM* rebelaessedai - 22/04/2011 04:25:38 AM 679 Views
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I am in agreement with you, and I'm not particularly Christian. Helene - 19/04/2011 04:11:57 PM 1299 Views
Which is sad (not the agreement, but their potential future) Jeordam - 19/04/2011 06:29:47 PM 1351 Views
Oh yes... I'm of course not sure. I can be way off base :-) Let's hope I am. Helene - 19/04/2011 06:55:13 PM 1343 Views
Could go either way. Dannymac - 19/04/2011 04:36:02 PM 1307 Views
I get the impression that it's more about her forming toward him than vice versa Helene - 19/04/2011 06:56:37 PM 1327 Views
Giving up is one thing, growing past is another. Dannymac - 19/04/2011 10:00:55 PM 1284 Views
Oh, to be fair, he's the friend and she's the wife Helene - 20/04/2011 08:43:12 AM 1226 Views
I don't necessarily think it will end in a breakup or divorce. Clover - 19/04/2011 04:44:11 PM 1298 Views
I think you are 100% right about having a good realtionship with your spouse's family random thoughts - 19/04/2011 05:07:12 PM 1321 Views
I think this is about priorities. rebelaessedai - 20/04/2011 01:07:20 AM 1480 Views
Our priorities may shift over time, too. We're still very young and more tied to our families. Clover - 20/04/2011 03:09:54 AM 1293 Views
Even when younger, I was independent. rebelaessedai - 20/04/2011 05:29:59 AM 1245 Views
*nods* Clover - 20/04/2011 06:25:29 AM 1369 Views
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Not the former for sure, and maybe not the latter. Palatine - 19/04/2011 05:55:03 PM 1358 Views
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Can't tell. nossy - 19/04/2011 10:04:27 PM 1306 Views
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What you said in the original question wouldn't neccessarily mean much to me either way. Tashmere - 20/04/2011 01:56:55 AM 1321 Views
It's not all out "she's worthless", it's more like "she's a bit silly with all her wishes" Helene - 20/04/2011 08:46:49 AM 1284 Views
That would still be a deal breaker for me. Tashmere - 20/04/2011 11:49:09 PM 1289 Views
I'm leaning more towards your interpretation. *NM* TaskmasterJack - 20/04/2011 02:15:22 AM 638 Views
I don't know. *NM* (I feel bad for the 20 people who viewed this message- my apologies) Vivien - 20/04/2011 04:36:13 AM 1357 Views
I'm with you on this. *NM* Camilla - 20/04/2011 10:00:41 AM 716 Views
*sigh* Yunalesca - 20/04/2011 09:25:02 PM 1425 Views
Re: I mean, it's not good. *NM* Gaps - 20/04/2011 11:50:21 PM 621 Views
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