Don't be surprised at the answers you get here. I mean, even the way you phrased your question, what can you do? Either keep doing what you were doing, which you say will lead you to cheat, or stop what you were doing. My first instinct was to judge, although I think I was offended more on behalf of the other women than your wife. You haven't wronged your wife - you've remained faithful, and by the sounds of it, a good and loving husband. Messing with other people's emotions is not right, but, it is thrilling. I will admit that too.



Not necessarily. It isn't necessarily a matter of time. You are well aware that it is the chase and the hunt you like, and that the actual act of sex would be disappointing. Just don't forget that. As long as you can step back at that critical moment. Don't take the chance of giving your wife an STD.

Those desires, they are part of your nature. Learn to work with them, to satisfy them in safe ways. Don't lose your head, don't get carried away, remember what's important. Step up the sex life with your wife - maybe a little more dominance & submission games will serve to vent your energies & distract you. Don't fixate too much on any one woman, don't fantasize about anyone specific - once you start doing that, the step to physical action is too easy.

Ah, you want to see how other people dealt with similar situations. When I don't see my boyfriend for more than 5 days, I feel an overwhelming urge to cheat on him. I'm aware of this, and it isn't a trifling matter. So I make sure to see him regularly, and have us go on vacation together. If one day, a longer separation is unavoidable, then I'll probably fail, but I'm fighting to push that day as far off as possible. If/when I do cheat, I'll use condoms, and then erase the incident from my mind and from history.