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When I was in high school, my girlfriend and I formulated a petition so we'd be able to attend Lupine Send a noteboard - 12/03/2010 07:55:33 PM
a dance as a couple. (This was after the people selling tickets declined to give them to us.) We got quite a few student and teacher signatures, then brought it before the administration. Their reaction was basically, "Sure, all you had to do was ask."

It was surprising to us, since my hometown is in the Midwest and is fairly middle-of-the-road as far as social/religious values are concerned. But I think they were clever enough to realize that if they said yes, well, there'd be two girls dancing together as a couple, amongst the dozens of other girls dancing together as friends... in short, no one would care or even notice. If they said no, on the other hand, there was the risk of an annoying media hoopla.

So I don't know if the school district in this story was acting out of malice/spite, but I do think it's behaving foolishly, especially if the goal was to avoid or downplay the issue.

Caveat: my girlfriend and I both wore dresses. ;) That was the dress code and we just didn't see a reason to object - we were both lipstick lesbians anyway.
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Seriously, wtf is wrong with the US? *NM* - 12/03/2010 12:08:32 AM 314 Views
Not ALL of the US. There were same-sex couples at my prom. *NM* - 12/03/2010 12:26:24 AM 357 Views
Yeah, don't worry, I know it's not like that everywhere. - 12/03/2010 09:15:43 AM 724 Views
This is the problem with liberals and their crusades like gay marriage. - 12/03/2010 12:50:12 AM 979 Views
Just a few things that I know you'll proabably disagree with. - 12/03/2010 02:03:32 AM 811 Views
Re: Just a few things that I know you'll proabably disagree with. - 12/03/2010 10:12:04 PM 815 Views
Ummmm.... no. - 12/03/2010 11:02:50 PM 828 Views
i totally agree 100% with what you're saying - 12/03/2010 02:33:55 AM 939 Views
What??? - 12/03/2010 02:53:13 AM 890 Views
Actually... - 12/03/2010 04:56:03 AM 905 Views
Oh, it is definitely self-defense. - 12/03/2010 05:52:50 AM 819 Views
That analogy is not apt. - 12/03/2010 06:10:27 AM 880 Views
Er... - 12/03/2010 06:45:05 AM 758 Views
I'm afraid that again that analogy is not apt. - 12/03/2010 01:39:19 PM 822 Views
... - 12/03/2010 02:05:54 PM 748 Views
I think you mean "I'm afraid that again that analogy is not apt." - 12/03/2010 02:45:23 PM 768 Views
That's right, I forgot to add that. - 12/03/2010 03:23:25 PM 819 Views
It's a rather key piece of any attempted analogy, wouldn't you say? - 12/03/2010 03:45:15 PM 713 Views
Again, you're right. - 12/03/2010 03:59:13 PM 686 Views
Yup. - 12/03/2010 04:02:26 PM 790 Views
Not really. Her point is that they should both be illegal. - 12/03/2010 07:01:47 PM 718 Views
Re: That analogy is not apt. - 12/03/2010 02:06:51 PM 772 Views
And when the school refused to change it's policy... - 12/03/2010 03:25:03 PM 711 Views
Absurd. - 12/03/2010 08:27:19 PM 791 Views
The rules were unjust. - 13/03/2010 05:09:59 AM 822 Views
Wow, talk about proving my point! - 12/03/2010 11:04:34 PM 927 Views
So hang on. - 13/03/2010 05:04:58 AM 810 Views
It's not that I'm surprised they disagree. It's that they're Wrong. - 12/03/2010 06:39:30 AM 787 Views
It is a great case of Selective Outrage, IMHO - 12/03/2010 03:10:01 AM 842 Views
Maybe. - 12/03/2010 06:34:42 AM 841 Views
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As is often the case, there seems to be a fair amount of assumption going on here. - 12/03/2010 02:22:48 PM 743 Views
Just giving the benefit of the doubt... - 12/03/2010 02:57:23 PM 807 Views
Re: "Pursuing their ideology" - 12/03/2010 07:23:54 PM 778 Views
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That wasn't the impression I was under - 12/03/2010 11:23:08 PM 662 Views
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Pshhh there's a difference between "wear SOME clothes" and "wear a tux" - 15/03/2010 01:40:37 AM 708 Views
Your comments are inconsistent - 15/03/2010 02:09:43 AM 767 Views
I think you're optimistic about what her chances would've been - 12/03/2010 07:13:38 PM 766 Views
For the record... - 12/03/2010 06:48:25 AM 767 Views
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Don't you think you're sensationalizing this just a bit? - 12/03/2010 05:42:21 AM 768 Views
Actually it is that reductionist - 12/03/2010 01:46:23 PM 766 Views
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I have issues with both sides, I think - 12/03/2010 02:44:06 PM 731 Views
When I was in high school, my girlfriend and I formulated a petition so we'd be able to attend - 12/03/2010 07:55:33 PM 890 Views
Another thing I think people should remember - - 12/03/2010 07:59:43 PM 881 Views
One point though - 12/03/2010 08:40:32 PM 802 Views
Re: One point though - 12/03/2010 08:46:30 PM 869 Views
My point was that it was a hollow reassurance - 12/03/2010 09:35:46 PM 700 Views
yah, but honestly, is a tux really going to upset anyone that much? - 13/03/2010 04:50:08 PM 666 Views
Just because it wouldn't bother you doesn't mean it won't bother anyone else - 13/03/2010 06:38:03 PM 729 Views
It does - 13/03/2010 07:35:39 PM 716 Views
Re: It does - 13/03/2010 07:48:35 PM 657 Views
I typically agree with you - 13/03/2010 09:19:27 PM 772 Views
Following proper form shouldn't guarantee victory - 13/03/2010 10:17:27 PM 715 Views
yah, but at this point, how much of it is the girl? - 13/03/2010 10:24:57 PM 674 Views
Is she a child or an adult? IIRC she's 18 - 13/03/2010 11:33:39 PM 732 Views
No, it should not - 14/03/2010 12:33:56 AM 928 Views
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I understood that. You explained it well. *NM* - 14/03/2010 03:28:10 AM 331 Views
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This is definitely true - 15/03/2010 04:27:43 AM 802 Views
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You make good points. *NM* - 15/03/2010 08:08:37 PM 301 Views
Ah, yes, "the rules." - 15/03/2010 01:47:31 AM 708 Views
Read my replies to Nossy and Ghavrel - 15/03/2010 05:01:29 AM 776 Views
Slippery slope arguments are stupid. - 14/03/2010 12:43:00 AM 654 Views
So is likening everythng back to the Civil Rights Movement - 14/03/2010 04:17:54 AM 810 Views
"Dress codes exists for a reason?" - 15/03/2010 01:43:36 AM 719 Views
They do - 15/03/2010 05:08:17 AM 835 Views
Damn. Poor liberals, all revved up with nothing to fight for. *NM* - 12/03/2010 10:16:12 PM 486 Views
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